Message: Started With Anal Only For Years, Never Enjoyed Vaginal
lisanmot: Lisa 31 here, I was actually introduced to sex anally quite young (I won’t mention the age as it may offend). I didn’t have any form of vaginal penetration for years, when I finally did I found it uncomfortable. This actually got worse after the birth of my daughter 9 years ago so I stopped all together and have absolutely no regrets.
This isn’t uncommon, in my experience. If your introduction to sex is exclusively anal and you remain that way for an extended period of time, anal is what you’re always going to prefer.
Part of this may have to do with the bias of what you experienced first and maintaining a preference for that, but I don’t think that has as much to do with it as some may think. After all, plenty of women start with vaginal and come to prefer anal later, so initial experiences certainly aren’t everything.
I think it has more to do with the inherent superiority of anal sex and the fact that anal pleasure is far more intense. If that’s what you start with and get used to, vaginal penetration and stimulation are going to feel tame and boring in comparison, and there won’t be much motivation to try and overcome the discomfort and unpleasantness you can also experience from vaginal.
Adding pregnancy into the mix very commonly makes vaginal uncomfortable and unenjoyable, both during pregnancy and after. Vaginal dryness is very common post-pregnancy, as is scarring and other effects that make vaginal sex just not a pleasant experience. All the more reason to keep recreational and reproductive sexual activities separate and keep vaginal sex just for getting pregnant while otherwise doing anal only for pleasure and intimacy.
Thanks for sharing your experience. As more women start having sex with anal and discover the benefits of being anal only, I think we’re going to see far more choosing to remain vaginal virgins except to get pregnant and living an anal only life otherwise. It really is a superior way to be for everyone.