E: I used to think double anal was just a porn fantasy—something that looked hot but wasn’t realistic for me. Then a friend shared one of your DAP training posts, and I decided to give it a try.

It’s taken me 8 months of consistent work, but last week, I took my boyfriend and our housemate up my ass together for the first time. I cried afterwards, in a good way. It felt so good and so rewarding and we all want to keep doing it and I’m starting to think DAO might be my end goal, not just an occasional treat.

That’s so awesome to hear, truly. I hope you continue to enjoy it regularly—within a month or two it’s likely that you could be doing DAP every time you have sex. Listen to your body and stay in communication with the guys, but you’re all going to be loving this!

Going anal only already means saying no to pussy. Double anal takes that rejection to another level—more intense, more undeniable, and more symbolic. With two cocks, some might see one in each hole as the best option, and choosing to share anal together is a deliberate choice in favor of greater pleasure, and against pussy.

The easiest thing to do with two cocks is one in the ass, one in the pussy. That’s the common logic. That’s what porn has normalized. It divides and conquers, keeps things simpler, keeps the pussy in the picture.

But when a woman takes both in her ass, she’s doing something much more radical. She’s confirming that her pussy is off the table—for good. It doesn’t get used just because there’s another cock available. Pussy is never an option.

And when two men agree to share a butthole rather than taking one hole each, they’re agreeing too. They’re choosing together to make the pussy irrelevant, to rub their cocks together inside her ass for far greater pleasure for both of them—and for her. They’d much rather do this than either one have to be in her pussy.

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Double anal doesn’t leave the pussy with a backup role. It doesn’t leave it with any role. It doesn’t even leave it with dignity. While your ass is getting claimed, stretched, filled and loved—your pussy is just there. Unused. Unneeded. Forgotten.

That’s what makes double anal powerful. It’s not just two cocks, it’s zero compromise. Just one hole for both.

Most people didn’t grow up knowing anal only was even an option—let alone the better one. For many, it took years of fumbling through unsatisfying or unwanted vaginal experiences before discovering that the ass isn’t just “also” good. It’s the way. But what if that discovery didn’t have to come late? What if we taught anal first?

Rethinking the Default

Right now, vaginal sex is the assumed default for many. It’s what young people are told to expect. It’s what partners are expected to want. And it’s what most women are taught to endure—even if it doesn’t feel right, even if it never really works.

But imagine a different kind of education. One where anal isn’t treated as taboo or “advanced,” but as normal. As the place where penetration belongs from the start. No pussy pressure. No clit obsession. No “just try it once” arguments. Just the calm, confident understanding that the body already gives us everything we need in the ass.

Teaching Girls the Truth from the Beginning

If girls were taught to treat their ass as their only sexual opening, everything would change.

• They’d train their bodies from the start to accept fullness, depth, and stretch where it matters.
• They’d never develop emotional or physiological ties to vaginal contact they don’t actually want.
• They’d grow up knowing that their pleasure, their power, and their place comes from being penetrated only where it feels right.
• They’d have no shame in saying “My pussy’s not for use—ever.”

Instead of unlearning the old ways, they’d be free to build something pure from the beginning.

A New Standard for Boys, Too

This isn’t just about girls. If boys were taught that anal is the only place they should penetrate, their entire mindset would shift. No more chasing pussy out of habit or ego. No more disrespect for boundaries. No more confusion about what a girl’s body is for.

Instead, they’d see the butthole as sacred, worthy, and theirs to stretch, fill, and care for. They’d learn how to train their partners properly. How to share the gift of DAP with other guys. How to admire a gape, and work to stretch it bigger. They’d become anal only men—and that would reshape culture from the root.

From Generation to Lifestyle

This kind of shift doesn’t happen overnight—but it can happen. It starts with women who choose anal only now. Who raise their daughters to follow their example. Who raise sons to seek out buttholes, not vaginas. Who talk openly, train proudly, and plug daily.

And it grows from there. With every girl who skips vaginal sex entirely. With every boy who never develops a taste for pussy. With every couple who shares anal only as their only form of intimacy. A generation is being built—one disciplined, stretched, and devoted butthole at a time.

So What If We Taught This First?

We’d raise girls who never had to recover. We’d raise boys who never had to be corrected. We’d raise lovers who go straight to double anal.

We’d raise a world where anal only isn’t a rebellion—it’s the rule. And that world would be better.

Let’s build it.

Rafael: Hello, thank you for your blog. It has a lot of useful information and interesting user messages. I’m a gay male, mid-30s, bottom exclusive. After reading your double anal article, I wanted to try it out. My first attempt with dildos wasn’t successful, it felt awkward and difficult to achieve penetration, so I decided to change tactics.

I presented your blog to my boyfriend, let’s call him John, and he liked reading it as much as I did.
Then, I suggested John to use one of my dildos along with his penis. He accepted and we tried the next day. I was pushed to my limits and it was a bit painful, a similar pain that I felt when I was new to anal.
John was very helpful and patient, he gave me all the time I wanted, even if it meant only oral for the night. After many tries, I managed to take both John and the dildo at the same time.

And I have to say you are right. The feeling was incredibly intense! I was stretched to my limits but in a good way. I’m used to having prostate orgasms and didn’t have one that time but the effects were as powerful in different ways. I’ve heard about a type of anal orgasm that is focused on the sphincter and rectum, maybe it was that.

After that night, I wanted to go for the true double anal experience but there were problems. John and I are monogamous, we’ve been together for more than 5 years and we’ve never cheated on each other.
When I suggested having another man for double anal, John was uncomfortable. We talked a lot about it and I think he’s feeling insecure about his size since I enjoyed DAP a little bit too much. He even commented about the size of one of my dildos, something he never did before.

Here’s the thing, I love John. He’s a great partner and amazing in bed. I often have prostate orgasms with him. I’m now feeling guilty. Our life outside the bedroom is going strong but the sex now is less intense. There wasn’t another double anal night ever since my suggestion. I kinda don’t know what to do and want to hear your opinion about this.

It’s great that you were able to experience DAP together—even using a dildo, that’s a huge milestone, especially as a first time. The fact that it triggered something new in you doesn’t mean you’ve outgrown what you have, or that you don’t enjoy sex with your partner. Double anal is a type of stimulation that can’t be replicated with just one penis or dildo, it’s a unique sensation and experience that requires multiple dildos, partners, or a combination thereof.

It also makes perfect sense that John might feel insecure or hesitant. When a partner sees you crave something that they alone can’t physically give, it can stir up feelings of inadequacy—even if they’re totally unfounded. That doesn’t mean he isn’t enough. It means he’s human. The best thing you can do now is help him feel chosen again. Let him know how much that DAP night meant because it was with him, not in spite of it. Remind him how you trust him to take you to your edge safely, and how no toy or fantasy can replace the connection you have.

As for involving another man—it’s okay that the idea was hard for him. But it doesn’t have to be off the table forever. You’ve already laid the foundation by being honest. What matters now is showing him that this isn’t about replacing or comparing—it’s about exploring something you want to share. You can keep the door open gently. Maybe frame it less as “bringing someone in” and more as “experiencing something together that we couldn’t otherwise do.” Let him feel like it’s an adventure you’re inviting him on—not a compromise he has to make.

In the meantime, you don’t have to give up DAP entirely. Keep training. Try dual toys again now that you’ve done it with him. Keep your body open and engaged. And most of all, keep celebrating what you and John already have. This doesn’t have to be a roadblock—it can be the beginning of something even deeper between you.

L: I’m 23, and I’ve never had sex. For a long time I felt like I was behind and really missing out, but more recently as I’ve learned more about anal only I’m actually glad that I didn’t have vaginal sex and lose my virginity with my pussy. I’ve been reading a lot, watching a lot of anal porn, and masturbating anally and I want to make my first time really special and train myself to be able to have double anal sex to lose my virginity and hopefully if it goes well, stay double anal only. I think it would be really fitting, not to mention exciting, to have saved myself for something special like this.

I’ve been wearing a butt plug most days, going bigger every month or so, and I’ve been masturbating with dildos a lot. I found I really like the feeling of a big stretch which is a good sign I suppose, and I’ve started using two dildos within a few minutes most sessions. Is there any advice you can give me to be ready to go straight to DAP the very first time without needing to warm up? And of course, how I can meet guys who are interested in DAP and who would be good to have sex with the first time?

I love your take on that, not missing out by not having sex, but saving yourself for the right thing. And I fully support and encourage your desire to go straight to double anal. You’re doing exactly the right things with your training and practice for it. Keep it up, work up to larger dildos until you’re at or exceeding average penis thickness every time you train, and start practicing trying to penetrate with both dildos together at the same time. You’ll get there, and once you can do that every day, you’re ready.

Finding two guys to lose your virginity to might be the harder thing, but it’s very doable. If you have two close male friends you could bring it up to them, or you could seek out people in a group sex lifestyle and see if anyone is interested. Men experienced with double anal would be best, but even just those who are open to or experienced with group sex could be quickly adapted to DAP. Just be clear you want it to be double anal only, no single anal, no vaginal, and set those ground rules immediately from the start.

Going anal only isn’t just a decision—it’s a process. It takes time, discipline, and the right mindset to fully disconnect from vaginal habits and embrace your butthole as your true sexual center. That transformation doesn’t happen overnight. But with intention and consistency, it can happen faster than you think.

Here’s a proven 90-day timeline to transition into a fully anal only lifestyle—mentally, physically, emotionally, and sexually.

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Day 0: Your Decision Point

This is the moment everything changes. You decide: no more pussy. No more fingers, no more clit, no more “exceptions.” You’re not waiting for someone to give you permission. You’re giving it to yourself. From this moment on, your ass is your only sexual access point.

Now the real work begins.

Days 1–30: Detox and Foundation

Goals:

• Cut out all vaginal contact—no exceptions, not even “just touching.”
• Begin daily plug wear for at least 1–2 hours (working up as needed).
• Masturbate anally at least several times a week, including whenever cravings are hard to resist.
• Journal cravings or temptations and how you overcame them.
• Tell your partner (or yourself, if solo) that vaginal sex is no longer on the table.

The first month is about rewiring your brain and your habits. You’re not “depriving” yourself—you’re redirecting. Every urge toward vaginal contact becomes an opportunity to re-center around your ass. Expect resistance. That’s normal. Stay committed.

Support Tip:
Install a small but meaningful ritual—e.g., plugging up when you wake up, or lighting a candle before stretching—to reinforce that this is your new norm.

Days 31–60: Stretch and Surrender

Goals:

• Increase plug size and wear time—aim for a large plug 4–6 hours daily or overnight.
• Continue intentional anal masturbation only—no pussy contact even to climax.
• Replace all porn with anal only content (include double anal porn as often as possible).
• If in a relationship, continue to maintain anal only sex exclusively—no “occasional” pussy slip-ins.

This is the surrender phase. Your ass becomes your comfort, your craving, your release. The plug, toys and cock no longer feels foreign—it feels essential. Vaginal denial is no longer an active struggle. It’s just who you are now.

Support Tip:
Join online communities or forums (like this blog) where anal only is celebrated. Hearing others’ success stories reinforces your own.

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Days 61–90: Integration and Identity

Goals:

• Reach full-time plug wear whenever not actively being penetrated.
• Work up to to long-term anal stretching goals, like larger toys or even double anal.
• Commit to long-term anal only, and don’t go back to vaginal just because you’re done with your initial challenge.

By this stage, anal only isn’t something you’re “trying.” It’s who you are. Your body responds differently. Your fantasies shift. Your hole is open, hungry, and fulfilled—and your pussy feels irrelevant, untouched, and sealed in the past.

Support Tip:
Mark Day 90 with a celebration. A full-day plug challenge. A DAP session. A new custom plug. Make it real. You’ve earned it.

Beyond Day 90: Lifelong, Plugged, Proud

Anal only isn’t a challenge—it’s your lifestyle now. You may still face the occasional temptation, but they lose power quickly. The further you get from vaginal contact, the more distant it feels. The more time you spend open, stretched, used and loved through your ass, the more right your body feels.

If you’re just starting this journey: don’t rush. But don’t doubt. The timeline works. Thousands of women have gone from curious to committed in 90 days or less—and never looked back.

Riley: I’ve been doing anal only for almost two years and recently started experimenting with double anal with my husband and his close friend. When it works, it’s absolutely incredible—stretching, overwhelming, intimate, and deeply fulfilling in a way I didn’t expect. But I’ve also had sessions where my body just wouldn’t take it, or I ended up too sore to keep up my plug routine afterward.

We really want DAP to be a regular part of our life. Not just an occasional treat, but a foundation. But I also don’t want to risk setbacks or burnout. Do you have any advice on how to build up the stamina and flexibility to make double anal sustainable, not just possible? I’m all in—I just want to do it smartly.

It’s amazing to hear how much DAP is already positively affecting you both emotionally and physically. It really is an amazing thing when it goes well. If you want to start doing it more regularly or even go double anal only, you’ve got to get to where it works easily all the time, not just sometimes.

Double anal demands more from your body than single anal, and it takes time to adapt to that, especially when you’re doing it regularly. You need to build up to where you can take two cocks at a moment’s notice with ease.

I suggest more regular plug wear in between sessions, especially focusing on larger plugs with thicker necks to keep your stretch active. Masturbate/train regularly with two dildos, or a large single dildo, so that you continue getting used to the more active penetration of two cocks in your ass together. When it’s just your boyfriend, you can use a dildo alongside his cock to stay warmed up for double anal.

After sessions, use aloe vera gel (make sure it’s pure aloe vera and not mixed with alcohol or other additives that may be harmful for anal use) on your anus and rectum to sooth it and help it recover.

Gradually increase the frequency and over the course of a month or two you should be where you can do double anal every time you have sex!

Pam & Sam: I’ve been wanting to share some of my personal experiences and confirm a few things I’ve read here. I’m a woman, happily married with no kids, and over the last couple of years, my husband and I have discovered a fierce passion for the stag & vixen lifestyle.

Together, we dive into this wild world, exploring swinger clubs and tight-knit circles where we connect with other couples—and sometimes with multiple men. Sometimes my husband jumps right in, other times he prefers to watch me take full control. This dynamic has pulled us closer and added a deliciously raw edge to our relationship.

Not long ago, I took a bold leap from double penetration to double anal. At first, it was challenging, but it quickly became a game-changer. I never imagined we’d enjoy it this much. This new thrill lets me—and us—fully indulge in group sex action, and I won’t lie—I got hooked on double anal. Now, we’re enjoying it to the absolute fullest without me having to step into porn or expose myself publicly. It’s our private, dirty secret—and it feels fucking amazing.

He even wanted me—actually allowed me, call it what you want—to go solo with double anal while he watched a couple of times. He told me it was mind-blowing for him to see how I was completely owning all those men, stretching and filling my ass to the max. The way I mastered every inch had him utterly captivated. You can’t imagine how empowered and damn sexy I felt afterward. That raw, intense feeling of control and pleasure was intoxicating—pure power.

For us, this lifestyle is about personal growth and self-discovery, the thrill of voyeuristic and shared pleasure, and exploring sexual possibilities that keep our relationship vibrant and alive. It’s a journey that requires trust, communication, and openness, but the rewards are beyond worth it.

I hope sharing this encourages others who are curious or considering this path. Living boldly and loving freely has truly transformed us.

I love being a hotwife. There’s something wildly liberating about owning this role with my husband’s full support. Despite the steamy encounters with other men and couples, there are no romantic feelings involved—our love is exclusive, fierce, and rock solid.

Thanks so much for sharing, I’m glad that you’re enjoying this experience and have made the transition from DP to double anal. I hope that you are also embracing anal only as part of this transition and no longer use your vagina anymore. If you really enjoy DAP over time you may find yourself wanting to explore going double anal only!

Joslynn: I’m a trans woman and for about 2 years I’ve been trying to find the limit my ass can be stretched, almost every day. I can see I’ve definitely progressed, but I want it even looser. How do all the porn stars have such blown out assholes and are able to take huge toys, literally, 2 feet deep in their asses? How are they able to be very rapidly fisted? I know part of it is a lot of practice, but there has to be something else, right? What am I missing?

Thanks for your question, Joslynn, and for sharing your goals. What you’re describing is something a lot of people who are deep into anal play wonder at some point: what does it really take to reach those advanced levels of stretch, depth, and responsiveness? You’re right that consistent practice is a big part of it, but there are definitely other elements that go into what you’re seeing in extreme anal performers.

First, body type and anatomy matter. Some porn performers simply have a more naturally relaxed pelvic floor or rectal elasticity, which gives them an easier time going deeper or looser. Hormonal status, body size, and even connective tissue flexibility can all influence this. That doesn’t mean it’s unattainable — just that some people may progress more quickly.

Second, many of the stars who can take massive toys or hands rapidly have put in years of very specific training. Daily or near-daily play helps, but longer-duration stretching sessions (think 30–60 minutes minimum daily with large plugs or toys, often multiple hours a day) are often a key factor. Many performers use incremental toy sizing systems, work up slowly over time, and frequently revisit sizes they’ve already mastered to maintain openness.

You might also be seeing the effects of temporary gaping and preparation — often, stars warm up with trainers or hands well before filming. What you’re seeing on camera isn’t always just what their body can do “cold.” Some also use enemas or douches not just to clean but to soften and relax the lower rectum beforehand.

Lastly, don’t underestimate the mental side. A lot of what allows people to reach those extremes is a deep mental connection to submission, surrender, or accomplishment, and training your mind to associate big stretch with arousal, not fear.

You’re already doing a lot right. Keep listening to your body, celebrate your progress, and don’t rush pain or strain. Some of the deepest, most blown-out girls you see in porn got there over 5–10 years — and with plenty of trial and error. If you stay patient and intentional, you’ll keep making progress.

Anonymous: I’ve been lurking here for a while and finally decided to jump in because this place gave me the courage to speak up and maybe get some real advice.

I’m almost 30, pretty sexually experienced and adventurous. I’m currently in a relationship — stable, grown-up, and organized, just like I wanted. Before this, I was all over the place: multiple boyfriends, threesomes, and somewhere along the way, I discovered my absolute passion for anal sex. It’s become my biggest turn-on.

Now, here’s the thing. My boyfriend is super wealthy and spoils me in every way except in bed. He’s mostly into oral and vaginal, and no matter how much I try, he’s just not into anal. I’ve even tried to get him to experiment with it, but no luck. Meanwhile, I find myself masturbating to anal-heavy porn, recently even mostly double anal scenes — those drive me wild. I even catch myself daydreaming about being in those scenes, completely taken and stretched, and it’s honestly the hottest thing I can imagine. What’s wrong with me?

I’m seriously craving an anal-only sex life, but how do you convince him to open up to that? I’ve tried everything I can think of, but he’s just not there. And forget about double anal or group stuff — I don’t even know how to bring that up without killing the mood or freaking him out. Am I crazy for wanting this so badly? Should I just accept a stable but kind of boring sex life? Or… is it okay to explore this behind his back if he won’t meet me halfway? How do you balance wanting wild, kinky sex with wanting a steady relationship? Has anyone been stuck in this spot and figured out a way to have both? Or should I just end the relationship and look for what truly makes me happy?

I’m really torn and could use some honest advice.

Thank you for being so open. What you’re feeling isn’t “wrong” — it’s deeply human. It’s okay to crave more than what you’re currently getting, especially when you’ve discovered a part of your sexuality that brings you such intense, personal pleasure. Anal, and particularly anal only, can be deeply affirming, and wanting to share that with your partner isn’t selfish — it’s a desire for intimacy, connection, and mutual expression.

At the same time, your partner’s disinterest isn’t a personal failure either. People have limits and preferences, and while those can sometimes shift, they don’t always. The tough part is realizing that compatibility in a relationship isn’t just emotional or practical — it’s sexual too. And when there’s a deep mismatch, especially on something you’re passionate about, it can create a quiet ache over time, even if everything else seems stable.

You’re not crazy for wanting double anal or group sex, or even for fantasizing about it. You’re not broken. You’re a sexual person with vivid and evolving desires — that’s normal. But no matter how strong the craving, going behind your partner’s back isn’t the right move. It might offer a thrill, but at the cost of trust and long-term peace of mind. That doesn’t mean you’re trapped either. It just means the choice you make should come from clarity, not desperation.

If you haven’t already, try having an open, pressure-free conversation with your boyfriend. Not just about anal, but about what arousal means for you now — how it’s become core to your sense of self. He may not be willing to join you fully, but if he loves you, he’ll listen.

If he still can’t or won’t meet you partway — even just with a toy in a low-pressure setting — then you have to ask yourself: Is staying with him more important than living as your full sexual self? That’s not a decision anyone else can make for you.