Guest Post: 5 Tips for Women Transitioning From Vaginal to Anal Only
In my teens and early twenties, I strictly denied any and all access to my ass. Today, I’m in my early thirties and live an anal only lifestyle. Rather than dwelling on the time I wasted in my youth, I’d like to offer up some advice I learned along the way. Perhaps it will help some young readers begin their anal only journey before I did. Better late than never though, in my case!
1. Anal Only Does Not Happen Overnight
This isn’t a flip-the-switch transition. Your body needs time to adjust, and so does your mindset. Anal only isn’t just avoiding vaginal sex — it’s creating a new default. You’ll need time to stretch, to relax, and to retrain your response to arousal. At first, it may feel like you’re trying something new. Eventually, it feels like you’ve come home.
Don’t rush. Don’t force yourself. You don’t need to take large toys, or jump to double anal right away. The most important thing is consistency — giving your ass regular attention, and always using it as your only outlet for penetration. Your body will adapt if you give it a reason to.
2. Set Clear Boundaries with Yourself First
Before you talk to a partner, you need to make the decision for yourself. That means closing the door to vaginal sex completely, even when you’re alone. No fingers, no toys, no what-if fantasies. If you’re serious about going anal only, you need to build that boundary into your own habits and desires first.
That clarity makes it much easier to communicate with others, because you’re not negotiating — you’re sharing a truth you’ve already accepted.
3. Don’t Wait for a Partner to Make It Happen
Too many women wait for the “right guy” before they commit to anal only. But the best time to start is before you’re with someone — or even if you’re single. When you go anal only on your own terms, you stop shaping yourself around what others expect, and start building a foundation that someone else can join you on.
You’ll feel more confident, more in control, and more attracted to partners who actually match what you want.
4. Use Tools and Training with a Purpose
Butt plugs, dilators, toys — they’re all helpful, but only if you use them intentionally. Start small and go slow, but stay regular. Daily or near-daily plug wear (even just 30 minutes at first) can do wonders for building flexibility and comfort.
Choose toys based on what your body can handle comfortably with a little stretch — not what looks impressive. And always listen to your body. Discomfort is a sign to pause, not push.
5. Emotional Shifts Take Time Too
I didn’t expect the emotional rewiring that came with this shift. It’s not just about sensation — it’s about changing how you relate to your body, your boundaries, and your idea of sex itself. Letting go of vaginal sex was surprisingly freeing, and it brought me a kind of calm I never expected. Sex is no longer tied to fear of pregnancy or unwanted expectation. It’s something I fully choose. Don’t be surprised if this shift brings up feelings you didn’t anticipate. That’s part of what makes it real.
It’s amazing how good this feels!
As a man!
I know nothing more freeing, relaxing, caring and genuine than a woman who’s committed to anal only. The thought of her wanting to give up her vagina is beyond sexy and attractive. Nothing is more turn-on to me.
As a man, I’ll say we men are attracted to a lot of wild fantasies. But not plastic surgery, lip fillers, silicone in boobs, or ass surgery will get me on this much!
A woman who refuse her pussy for good is the strongest commitment of the highest form of sexual attraction.
It’s a natural high, I think.
I love this blog and I love to read about people’s experiences.
I currently struggle with letting vaginal sex go with my girlfriend, as it seems a bit scary – to be honest. But even though my mind says no, my heart says yes!