Message: Girlfriend Sore After Fingering Her Ass
Anonymous: My girlfriend and I (I’m a guy) have started to explore anal sex and she loves it when I finger her ass (she can only take one finger), but the next day after every single time I do so, she says that it hurts. I told her that since I only finger her about once a week only, it’s not enough for her to get used to it and that she should do it on her own, but she shies away from the idea. How do I get her to start practicing on her own? Cause I really want to have anal sex with her eventually.
A finger shouldn’t usually cause her pain after. Are your nails long or rough? A small abrasion could cause some stinging pain after. You might try a more passive toy like a small butt plug, gradually working up in frequency. She might be more open to wearing a plug on her own as well, as not everyone is into fingering their own ass.
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A suggestion for the anon whose girlfriend hurts the day after being fingered. I experienced that same thing a few times. The problem was that my boyfriend fingered me with very quick thrusts and not enough lube (he had seen it like that in porn).
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