Message: Husband Wants Double Anal, Part II
Melissa: Hi again, thank you for your answer. Double anal with a toy has already become a regular part of our sexual routine, and I really enjoy it. But I find myself struggling emotionally with the idea of having a sex session that includes another person alongside my husband. Why does double anal with a toy feel comfortable and natural, yet the thought of including another man in our sex life feels like a betrayal to my husband or even our marriage? Any advice how I can understand these conflicting feelings and work through them? Last but not least satisfy my husbands needs (and somehow mine too)?
It sounds like you love the stimulation and thrill of the act of double anal but have a strong monogomous nature where you want to stay loyal to your husband only. That’s not inherently a bad thing at all, and it may be a sign that experimenting with including other partners may not fit well for your needs.
For some, it is possible to more easily include other partners without emotional intimacy being a factor, while for others it can be hard to separate intimacy, romance and the emotional connection from the physical sex. If you’re able to have a conversation with your husband about this and discuss both of your perspectives, maybe you can come to an agreement on a scenario where you’re more open to the idea, but if not, maybe you can compromise with making double anal with a toy your new full time normal and go double anal only together in that way, or consider getting a sex machine as the second “partner” for a bit more autonomy in motion for thrusting, etc.
Either way, I hope that you’re able to come up with something that is satisfactory for the both of you and allows you to explore what you want!
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