Discussion: Am I crazy to want an anal only relationship?
A user on Reddit asks:
I’m a 28 yr old male interested in a girl my age or younger. By girl I mean an actual female. Im not interested in men who have transitioned to females in any way.
Last few relationships have been good for the most part but the sex hasn’t done it for me tbh. They were open to anal and it was always great when that would happen but I’ve noticed I don’t enjoy vaginal sex as much.
Is it completely unrealistic of me to want an anal only relationship with a girl? I’ve tried to open up about my wants but the topic never went well at all and the relationships went downhill afterwards since after that they noticed I didn’t enjoy vaginal as much.
Is it silly of me to want a girl that’s into the same as me?
It’s more common than people think to be disappointed and disillusioned with vaginal sex. This does not mean that you don’t like women or are gay, it means that you don’t enjoy vaginal sex and (generally) prefer anal sex. Since anal is almost universally better than vaginal when done properly, it’s not surprising that a lot of men find themselves struggling to remain turned on by or to enjoy vaginal in a relationship, especially when it’s what their partner primarily expects.
In those cases, it absolutely makes sense to seek a partner who shares the same preference and either wants primarily anal sex or to be in an anal only relationship. It’s not unrealistic, and it’s not selfish.
Sex may not be the only important thing in a relationship, but sexual compatibility is still a very important part of it, and should be considered. If anal sex is an essential need for you to be sexually satisfied, then you owe it to yourself and to your partners to look for someone who shares or is open to that same preference.
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