Rejecting Vaginal Normativity and Building a New Sexual Culture
Vaginal sex is seen by most of the world as the default. It’s what people are taught in school, what most movies and books always show, what relationships are expected to revolve around. It’s treated as the “normal” way to have sex — and the “right” way to have a relationship.
But normal doesn’t mean necessary. And when you strip away reproduction, there’s no reason at all for vaginal sex to hold any special status. If you aren’t looking to have children right now, vaginal sex has no purpose, no advantage, and no place in your lives.
Why Vaginal Is Treated as the Default
Vaginal sex became the norm for one reason: reproduction. It exists as a cultural expectation because of its ability to make babies. That’s it. Sure, it can be pleasurable to many people. It provides intimacy and connection. But fundamentally, it’s because of reproduction and ease, and anal provides pleasure, intimacy, passion and more far better than vaginal can.
Once you take away reproduction as the goal and replace it with anal, vaginal sex loses its entire reason for being. And the truth is, most modern sex isn’t about making children anyway. It’s about intimacy, expression, and satisfaction. And for those things, anal is superior in every way.
Vaginal sex is:
- Vulnerable to accidental pregnancy
- Less pleasurable for many women, and even painful or uncomfortable for some
- Focused on quick, easy climax and less on mutual pleasure
- Less enjoyable for men
- Loaded with expectations that treat women like passive recipients
Anal sex, on the other hand, is:
- Deliberate and deeply focused
- Physically more intense, emotionally more vulnerable
- Centered on preparation, patience, and full-body surrender
- Pleasure for the sake of pleasure
Even Reproduction Doesn’t Require Vaginal Sex
Some women still want to get pregnant — and that’s valid. But even that doesn’t require giving up anal only living. If reproduction is the goal, there are ways to accomplish it without ever having vaginal sex.
- Pull-out vaginal insemination: Your partner can pull out while orgasming and insert his penis into the vagina only to ejaculate inside
- Transfer from rectum to vagina: It’s possible to orgasm in the rectum, then use fingers or a syringe to move semen from one to the other, or push out the semen while holding open the vagina and letting it run inside
- IVF or clinical methods: For those who want children with full control, there are medical options that don’t require vaginal intercourse at all.
You can stay true to your anal only identity and still become a mother — if that’s what you want. But even that doesn’t make vaginal sex necessary. It’s optional. And for many who live anal only, it’s not even that. It’s rejected.
Moving Forward, No Looking Back
If you’ve already stopped vaginal sex, this is your reminder that you’re not missing anything. If you haven’t yet, this is your invitation to begin. You don’t need to wait for a special moment or the perfect excuse. Just decide:
“I’m done with vaginal sex. I reject vaginal normativity. I live anal only.”
And if you ever doubt it, look at the facts: vaginal sex is only “normal” because of old ideas about reproduction. But in every other way — for pleasure, focus, control, connection — anal sex wins. Every time.
Make your life better. Make it anal only.
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