Anonymous: My boyfriend put it in my pussy without warning nor my consent last night after YEARS of not even fingering my pussy. It hurt so badly and was very unpleasant. I’m pretty damn mad at him, and not even anal masturbation would take the pain and discomfort away. This sucks.

I’m sorry to hear that. You need to have a conversation and tell him why it wasn’t okay that he did that. Whatever your preferred sexual acts are, abrupt deviation from the norm generally needs to be preceded by a conversation to avoid situations like this. And if you are anal only, it was wrong for him to engage in vaginal sex with you without talking it through and getting your consent first.

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