Message: You’re Not Promoting Safe and Fun Anal Sex
Anonymous: Um, no. You’re not promoting safe and fun anal sex for both male and female to enjoy. You are promoting EXCLUSIVE anal sex by using disinformation and manipulation. Your sister blog shows pics of girls looking like they’re in extasy. But people always forget: These are porn ACTRESSES. This isn’t real life. You’re manipulating people into thinking that it’s normal. It isn’t and it shouldn’t be. Or why else does anal need practice, proper preparation and so on? Get real.
I’m doing both. I frequently get asked about and discuss anal sex in general and offer advice on how to best enjoy it. And yes, I do promote exclusive anal sex—for people who are interested in trying it. Clearly it doesn’t interest you, which is totally fine, but I’m not sure why you feel the need to suggest it can’t interest anyone else either or that if it does, they’ve been manipulated into liking it by me. I certainly don’t have that sort of power or influence—I talk about what I like, and share what I find that other people have said on the subject. It seems that quite a few other people like it as well.
My porn blog is just that: porn. It does promote anal sex and anal only with porn captions using porn as illustration, and yes, they are actresses, and yes some of the content in that blog leans more to the fantasy side of things and will not appeal to everyone in reality even if they get off to the fantasy. I have in fact mentioned this myself a number of times, suggesting that people who find the fantasy appealing and would like to learn more about it in a real world context go to other sources like this blog where it is grounded in reality without the fantasy components.
That said, just because they’re porn actors doesn’t mean “real” women do not enjoy anal sex. I don’t care what assertions you may make to the contrary—I know for a fact that many women absolutely do enjoy it. Not all do—which is totally normal, because there are few (if any) sex acts everyone enjoys.
It seems that you’re suggesting anal sex is an illegitimate form of sex because enjoyment of it requires preparation and practice for many people. First, understand that the gradual process I encourage for people trying anal for the first time may be overkill for many but is encouraged to guarantee the most enjoyment for the most people, since everyone is a bit different and some can have a harder time than others, and I’d like everyone interested in anal to have the best experience they can rather than the unfortunate experience many have with a partner who rushes in and causes them pain. There are some who are able to jump straight into various levels of anal play with little difficulty and others who need to work up to it. This can be true for vaginal sex as well. Mastering most sex acts is a process and you need to practice to best enjoy it. Anal warmup before each session is essentially little different from other forms of foreplay, just specialized for anal sex. Foreplay is essential for most people for vaginal sex as well in order for them to most enjoy it. Also, there are women who experience pain and discomfort from vaginal sex no matter what, but not from anal. How do such women fit into your view that anal cannot be normal?
Second, it seems somewhat absurd to suggest that because something might involve a process to master, it therefore isn’t and shouldn’t be considered “normal”. There are all sorts of non-sexual activities that require great effort to master and which don’t come naturally to any people—should no one try to become experts at those things either because it isn’t normal to be able to run a marathon, climb a mountain, or any other great physical feat?
The bottom line is that yes, sometimes my porn blog uses hyperbole about anal only and suggesting it’s the only natural way to have sex, but understand that to people who really prefer anal and do not get satisfaction and enjoyment from vaginal, that’s how it feels. Now, in reality, of course vaginal sex is a natural form of sex and it’s how we reproduce and there’s nothing at all wrong with vaginal sex for any reason—pleasure or reproduction—if that’s what you enjoy and desire. But anal sex is a perfectly valid form of sex as well, with great pleasure potential for all partners involved.
I don’t expect I’ll change your mind, as you seem to be pretty set in the mindset that anal sex is wrong and that going anal only, even for people who already enjoy anal and have decided on their own they want to try it exclusively, should not be encouraged. Is it too much to ask that you at least understand not everyone shares your opinion and that many men and women do in fact like and *gasp* even prefer anal?
The original version of this post on Tumblr got the following responses from blog followers:
mastermadmike: I’ve been in anal only relationships with women in which there were times we had sex 3 or more times in one night and at least once daily. I introduced her to it and she loved it after the first time. After about a month she said it felt better in the ass and requested anal only.
slutprogrammer: My friend with benefits just proved this anonymous moron wrong again. She literally lubed me with her pussy because it got me into her ass quicker than finding the lube. I remarked that her pussy had apparently been demoted to lube dispenser, and she laughed & agreed that it had. The orgasms prompted her to remark that if she’d known about anal sex 20 years ago she never would have felt the need to smoke weed.
femmefatale4ever: I find this completely to be a misguided opinion that you have dreamed up. I can and do orgasm from anal penetration, and I 9 out of 10 times prefer it. I suppose women can’t enjoy giving blow job, either? Like where did you come up with this? I’m going to assume, since you like to also assume, that you probably at some point had a bad experience. Guess what, different people like different things. No one is telling ANYONE what to do. This is simply an site for people to come together to talk about a singular passion that they enjoy CONSENSUALLY with their partners.
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