Category: Clitoral Denial

This category contains posts talking about clitoral denial, whether advice and reasons for introducing it into one’s sexual routine, stories and accounts of having done so, and questions about why one’s partner may want them to give up their clit. For more information, see our Benefits of Avoiding Clitoral Stimulation During Anal Sex page.

For those interested in denial, you may also want to visit the website Edging Space (formerly female-orgasm-denial on Tumblr).


The Time is Now for Porn to Go Anal Only

As anal sex continues to become more common and the anal only lifestyle more frequently adopted around the world, pornography for once is somewhat lagging behind rather than being a trendsetter.

This is not universally the case, of course: the anal focus can be found in many porn productions with vaginal sex either nonexistent or an afterthought at best, but even the latter should be eliminated until the vagina serves no role at all other than decorative in any porn whatsoever.

The reality is that people are influenced and inspired by porn and continuing to show occasional vaginal inspires people to keep having vaginal sex occasionally rather than committing to the purity of anal only and the benefits that come from doing so.

Stop including any sort of vaginal sexual activity. No more vaginal sex, no more double or triple penetration involving vaginal, no more vaginal dildoing or fingering, and no more clit stimulation. The time is now for porn, and all of us, to go purely anal only.

Message: Vaginal Abandonment and Orgasm Denial

Anonymous: So, I’ve followed this site for a while. I’m a female. I get super turned on at the thought of vaginal abandonment and orgasm denial. However, the vaginal abandonment term is not something I hear or read about often. Wondering why that is? I’ll be discussing this with my partner and I am unsure of how he will feel about it. He comes from a fairly conservative culture. So it’s something I’ll need to bring up lightly initially. At any rate I’ve tried finding good resources such as other blogs or articles and even testimonials about specific vaginal abandonment and why it’s done. Not sure if I’m making sense. Perhaps it’s just a terminology issue and I’m missing the point. I dunno.

“Vaginal abandonment” is used interchangeably with “anal only”, and the latter is catchier and easier to use so is more common. But they generally mean the same thing. The end result is avoiding use of your vagina and having anal sex in its place.

There are lots of resources on the topic here, but outside of this community it’s less commonly discussed. If you have any other specific questions or advice wanted, feel free to ask! And let us know how it goes when you discuss it with your partner—I hope for your sake that he agrees to go anal only with you!

Message: Pussy Used For Female Fantasies Only

Anonymous: I am glad to inform you that today I reached an agreement with my GF: we are going from anal mostly to AO!! She is worrying that pussy orgasms are needed for the good health and hormonal balance of a young woman. Well, medicine is not my cup of tea hence I am not gonna judge the scientific basis of what she thinks. I anyway accommodate her concerns offering her the possibility to cum with pussy only out of her lesbo fantasies, while what concerns us both has to go anal only

Congratulations, it sounds like it will be a very rewarding arrangement for the both of you. I think you’ll find that a number of anal only women may still involve some clitoral stimulation with other women even if not with men. Others decide over time that it’s worth going pure anal only even when with men, and keeping things focused on anal penetration and rimming. Perhaps in time she’ll decide that as well.

Message: Anal Only During Pregnancy

Anonymous: My husband (34M) and I (29F) have been in a relationship for 10 years, married for 2. I’ve been attracted to anal since a teenager (the first time I masturbated was anally), but my husband is a pretty vanilla kind of guy, so it took a while to convince him to fuck my ass. That was some 6 years ago I think. Since then we’ve been having some anal occasionally (definitely much less than once every 2 months) and it’s always been me initiating.

Anyways, in April we got pregnant after a very long spell of no anal to achieve conception and my doctor forbade vaginal sex due to some complications. Oral was also out of the question for me (and still is) due to extreme all-day sickness that sent my gag reflex into overdrive. As a result, we’ve been sex free for 3 months and now that my all-day sickness is going away, my husband finally proposed by himself that he fuck my ass!

So we had a talk and told him that I’d gladly have regular anal sex with him, as many times a week as he wants. It’s been a week since then and he’s fucked my ass every other day, completely ignoring my pussy. He won’t even touch my clit, which I find extremely hot (so I stopped touching it as well, hoping to achieve pure anal orgasms). He just lubes his cock and goes straight for my ass. It’s like my pussy doesn’t even exist for him now! It honestly feels like I’m living the dream!

I hope those anal only months will tip the scales and make him want more of it after the pregnancy is over, although I won’t even dream that he’ll want to stay anal only. I know he loves my pussy too much.

I never expected that getting pregnant would make my anal only sex fantasy come true!

Congratulations! That’s wonderful that you’re living your anal only dream finally and that it seems he’s happy with the arrangement as well and is committed to ignoring your pussy and clit entirely at least in the moment. You must be loving it, and I hope that you update us with more details on how things are progressing since you first shared this.

Make sure to let him know regularly how much you love him in your ass and how happy you are to be his anal only wife and he may very well be happy to keep ignoring your pussy and keep you purely anal only even after the pregnancy is over. It would be a shame to waste such a wonderful streak that you both enjoyed just because it’s technically possible to return to vaginal despite anal being better for you both. Maybe help him to also see that just because he loves your pussy doesn’t mean he has to fuck it, and not fucking it and using your ass instead can be a stronger sign of love.

Forum: Getting Harder and Harder

I am not a newbie, but recently I have experienced things I have never seen before. My girl likes to be fucked longer, harder and more all the time. She has been getting really into total pussy denial, i used to be allowed to lick her and spank her pussy but now she wants it absolutely untouched. She is also really insisting on natural lubricants and without her pussy it’s just spit (mine and hers) and she has become totally obsessed with deep-throating ass-to-mouth for extra lube.

I have known girls who love anal above all else. I even knew anal-only girls, but I never experienced something like that. It’s like a manifestation of the anal-only mythology where she always wants more and I get addicted to her ass.

She says she always loved anal but this is the first time she realizes that she wants to have her pussy completely denied, only have her ass licked and fucked and only come from anal or not at all.

Has anybody had such an experience too. Is that happening more often or am I just experiencing something very special?

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Message: Orgasms in the Anal Only Lifestyle

Anonymous: Dear Sir

I wrote to you last June asking for advice on becoming anal only for my Master. First, a huge thank you. Your advice was great and i am officially an anal only slut since April. It feels amazing to say that and my Master is so proud of me. Second, i would like to get your opinion on something. What is your stance on orgasms in the anal only lifestyle? My Master never allowed me to orgasm freely and always made sure i earned it. But since i am anal only it feels wrong to ask for clitoral stimulation (my only way to orgasm). I still want to orgasm but it just does not feel right. Do you have any advice?

Thanks for your guidance and your blog. 

humbly honey 

Thank you for following up! You’re quite welcome, and I’m glad to hear that you have decided to officially go anal only and are loving the experience! Ultimately, that’s what matters most, that you and your partner want it and are happy with it, and if so, then by all means, being anal only is what you should do!

As for orgasms, I’m all for them personally, but each person has their own individual preferences and goals. Excluding clit stimulation can certainly help with amplifying anal pleasure and arousal even further, and if that also works with your dynamic of orgasm denial, then I encourage continuing to explore it further. You may discover that after an extended period of time without clit stimulation, you can start to orgasm from anal penetration on its own!

Forum: Just a Little Disappointed

We’ve never made it a full week doing anal only. I think 5 days has been our max and then he’s back to my pussy and my ass gets ignored for many months.

For years before we met, I fantasize about being someone’s little anal slut and having my pussy ignored completely. That doesn’t seem like an option right now but does anyone have advice on convincing him to try this for more than just a few days?

CuriousKitten, Anal Only Lifestyle forum

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Message: My Anal Only April Goals

AnnaB: My boyfriend eagerly agreed when I said we should try Anal Only April, and I really love it so far, it makes me so horny and wet to only do anal and ignore my pussy! We’re going to try anal only without touching my pussy at all for the whole month and I really hope it goes well because if it does I’m going to ask him if I can stay anal only!

That sounds like the perfect goal, and he’s a lucky guy to have someone so enthusiastic about anal only!

Reddit: How Long Did It Take To Cum From Anal?

At the moment I can only cum from clitoral stimulation and anal, but I’ve read some posts on here where ladies have cum from just anal and I want that

An excerpt of several good responses:

I started to be fucked in the ass in July or August last year. Then closer to Christmas I started using buttplugs when I played with myself and earlier this month I used a vibrator and a dildo to play only with my ass! I kept playing when my body wanted to stop and then I squirted and came on the dildo! I was so proud I had to tell my Daddy (Dom) immediately

Little-CocoPops, /r/analonlylifestyle

My wife is the same way as you but unfortunately she doesn’t have the same hunger to cum solely from anal as you. We’re AO at this point because of some ongoing vaginal issues she’s having (which we suspect are due to her taking immunosuppressants for her autoimmune disease), but she needs her vibrator on her clit to cum, no matter what. She’ll have massive anal orgasms, but once she cums her psychological lust for anal dissipates, and she’s like “honey you gotta try to cum, I can’t go much longer.” Every time I broach the subject of “why don’t we try to slowly gradually train you away from your vibrator?” She gets pissed.

syncop8, /r/analonlylifestyle

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Message: Getting Virgin Girlfriend Into Anal

Ted: Hi! I’m Ted, a 26yo male VERY MUCH into anal. I knew I wanted anal only after watching my first porn video at 16yo. Thankfully, I’m attractive, with a boyish face that pleases the ladies, so I never had to compromise too much with vaginal or clitoral action. I’m either dating women who are already into anal, or getting women to try it.

My ultimate dream would be to be in a couple with a younger, complete vaginal virgin, who never had her pussy fucked and who barely/never stimulated her pussy at all (no clit/vaginal action), but who’d be available non stop for oral and anal action. Also, I’m into orgasm denial in the sense that to me, the only orgasms a woman should get are those gained naturally from anal.

Months ago, through friends, I met this cute 21 year-old who quickly grew fond of me. We had a few dates, we got closer, and recently, she confessed to me she’s a complete virgin, and she’d love me to teach her what sex is all about.

This is a golden opportunity. She’s beautiful, small, smart, innocent, funny, we have good things in common, she’s just my type of girl. I tried to question her about sex, and apparently, she has next to no experience, even by herself or through porn.

I’d like to know if you have any advice to help me get her into pure anal, no compromise. I’m very afraid to screw up and chase her away, even if she’s so much into me that IMO she could accept a lot.

I thought the better approach, rather than flat out say I prefer anal, would be to suggest anal for contraception, as a first step. I know she doesn’t take the pill, so I could say I can’t stand condoms and I’m scared to penetrate her vaginally. Then if I can get her hooked on anal, or at least be used to it, it’d be easier to go from there.

I’m already planning to use the content you have here, like the super well-made The Dangers of Clit Stimulation, to keep her from pussy action once she’s accepted anal.

What do you think?

I recommend being honest and up front and not trying to manipulate her, just present your case for preferring anal, why you think anal pleasure is so much better than vaginal, and how it can amplify her pleasure to keep things anal only from the start without distracting her pleasure with multiple sources and reducing both rather than focusing just on the one with the most potential for pleasure.

Present the benefits: greater pleasure, more intimacy and trust, and natural birth control. From there, you can talk about how it’s what you’ve always much preferred and how you think it’s really attractive and sexy that she hasn’t had vaginal sex and that you’d like her to try going and staying anal only with you and keeping her pussy virgin.