Tina: I’ve stopped using my pussy entirely and I love being anal only in theory, but I still haven’t had a full orgasm from anal alone. Should I go back to clit stimulation or keep pushing through?

First off, congratulations on making the commitment! Loving the lifestyle “in theory” is a great start, but we want you to love it in practice, too. What you’re experiencing—the difficulty of reaching a hands-free anal orgasm—is incredibly common during the transition phase.

The reality is, your brain and body have likely been wired for years to associate climax with clitoral stimulation. Retraining those neural pathways takes time, patience, and often a change in technique. Should you go back? Not necessarily. If your goal is to be truly anal only, “pushing through” doesn’t mean depriving yourself of pleasure; it means evolving how you achieve it.

Try these three adjustments before you give up on the goal:

• Instead of total abstinence from clit stimulation, try using it only to get yourself 90% of the way there, then stop and focus entirely on the anal sensation for the finish. This helps your brain start to “transfer” the peak to the new sensation.
• Sometimes an anal orgasm requires a different kind of stimulation than a vaginal one. Experiment with different toy shapes or depths that put pressure in different places.
• The more you stress about the orgasm, the further away it stays. Focus on the feeling of being filled and the intimacy of the act itself. Often, the first anal orgasm happens when you finally stop chasing it.

Stay the course. Stick it out. You won’t regret it.

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Ginger: My husband and I share a loving and strong marriage, raising a wonderful family together. Over time, our intimate connection has evolved, and we’ve grown comfortable exploring new ways to enjoy each other, especially through regular anal sex. We even watch porn—nothing too crazy, mostly gangbang related stuff.

But deep down, I don’t always feel completely fulfilled. It’s like there’s something more I need: to feel wanted, engaged, used in a way that’s raw and hardcore. The thought of being in a real gangbang and taking double anal keeps playing in my mind. I crave that surrender, that edge. The fantasy feels so strong and necessary to make me happy.

My problem is, I have no idea how to bring this up with my husband. He’s loving, but I’m torn between wanting more and fearing how it might change his view of me. I’m scared he’ll think I’m too much, or maybe gets interested in other women if we go too far. I want to keep our marriage special, but part of me feels selfish for wanting more without wanting to share him. Is anyone else in a similar spot? How do you approach this kind of conversation without risking everything good you already have?

I am really worried. I feel like time is slipping away, and if I don’t take the step to share these desires soon, it might never happen.

What you are feeling is a very natural progression. Often, as we get more comfortable with the intensity of anal only, our minds start pushing the boundaries of what that intensity could look like.

Your fear of how your husband will view you is the biggest hurdle most couples face. However, the fact that you already watch gangbang porn together is actually a huge green flag and suggests he enjoys the idea at some level as well.

My advice is to stop viewing this as selfish. If this fantasy is what you need to feel fully alive and engaged, sharing it is actually an act of intimacy, not a betrayal of the marriage. Start by talking about the content you watch together. Ask him, “What is it about these scenes that you think we both enjoy?” and use that as a bridge to say that you fantasize about being part of one.

You don’t have to jump into a real gangbang tomorrow. You can start with “simulated” double anal using toys or just deep roleplay to test the waters of that surrender you crave, and expand from there.

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Jenna: Hi, I want to try having anal sex for the first time with my boyfriend and we’ve been trying a few times but haven’t been able to get him in yet. How can I get started, it doesn’t really hurt but it just doesn’t go.

Congrats on trying anal, I’m sure you’re going to love it once you get started and get into a more frequent routine with it!

Make sure to go through a good warmup process first. If you’re both comfortable with it, having him lick your butthole for a while before will help you relax, then make sure to add some lube to your anus and massage it with a finger, slide the finger in gently, and after you can comfortably fit a finger or two, you can go back to trying it with his lubricated penis. As he presses gently in line with your anus, try bearing down or “pushing out” which relaxes your anal muscles and opens them up for him. Go slow, but he should be able to start sliding inside.

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Rafaela: Hello, my name is Rafaela and I’m from Brasil. In 2026, I’ll be 35. I’ve only had anal sex three times. Two of these experiences were frustrating because the guys were already on the verge of cumming, so they lasted only seconds. For the other one, I literally hired a male escort because I wanted to feel pain—real pain. I was facing a difficult time and I needed something to make me ‘feel alive,’ and what’s better for that than pain?

I was lucky the guy was really sadistic (lol); it hurt a lot. I had to bite my pillow, the sheets, even the bed, but I didn’t ask him to stop—I really needed that. He was so rough I thought I was going to die, but once he finished and removed his penis, I sat up and it felt like nothing had happened. Really—no pain, no nothing. We chatted a bit and he left.

I felt incredible. I felt alive. I felt that I am able to push my limits and go further in life, even in other areas, not just sex. It changed my view of the world; I feel more courageous. And, most importantly, I became addicted. I haven’t had another anal experience since then, but I know I want it. Now, when I have sex and there’s no anal penetration, it feels incomplete. I really want to enter this new world, but I confess I feel a bit nervous, especially because I know how painful it can be if not done properly. Actually, I don’t even know if it’s done properly, if it will still be painful.

I have a few potential sexual partners with whom I chat, and they say they would love to have a lot of anal sex. The whole point is: how should I start? By putting things inside, like a butt plug, and trying to wear it for a long period? I’ve tried, but I couldn’t manage to keep it inside for more than, I don’t know, 10 seconds. It hurts. I think I already have the right mindset, but I need some encouragement. Could you provide it for me? Give me a step-by-step guide to follow, starting from the very beginning? I’ll wait for your response. Thank you for your patience in reading all this.

Hello, and thanks for reaching out. I’m glad that you’re looking to embrace anal sex and potentially go anal only. I highly recommend checking out our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle which goes into great detail about all the various aspects of anal and AO.

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Anonymous: Vaginal sex never felt good for me, and anal always felt wrong but deeply pleasurable.
We were not in sync in our life or in bed, and even though the few times we tried anal we felt incredibly united and intimate, I carried this heavy feeling that it was somehow a sin.

The real turning point was my mindset shift: if something felt so good, loving, and connecting for us, maybe it wasn’t wrong at all. I decided to go all in on anal and on my sexuality, because I didn’t want to lose my marriage and I was done ignoring what actually worked for my body and our bond.

As we focused more on anal, I slowly started to explore my own body with more curiosity and less shame. I didn’t know what I was missing until now!

Then I discovered double anal. For the last three years I’ve been doing only double anal with a toy, and it has never felt better. I’m loving double anal and will never go back; it changed my life, my mood, and the way I experience intimacy with my husband. I am hooked!

I’m not saying this is for everyone, but for us, choosing what truly feels good and consensual has brought more freedom, connection, and joy than following someone else’s idea about what sex “should” look like.

For our anniversary I want to surprise my husband with a tattoo about “double anal” as a playful tribute to this journey, something slightly edgy or even a bit nasty, but meaningful to us but mostly to me. I want to stand by my passion. I think this is the right creative community that could help me, what ideas do you have for places and motives for a tattoo like this?

That’s wonderful you were able to embrace anal only, and now double anal only. It truly is the best, and everyone should be able to enjoy it freely. I’m glad you want to commemorate your commitment and lifestyle with a tattoo—it’s a very fun idea that I support!

A simple “double anal only” or “DAO” over your ass is one option. More symbolically, perhaps two “male” symbols () with one “female” symbol ()—the male symbols could be angled in towards the circle of the female symbol, something like:

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Gina: I’m 37, married, and a mom of three, but I’ve never felt more in tune with my body or my marriage than I do now. Years ago, we decided our family was complete, and that opened a different side of our relationship. Without the pressure or planning for what comes next, I decided to go anal only and we could finally explore what really excites us.

Since we rarely get nights out, we make our own fun at home. Once the kids are asleep, I like to pour some wine, put on something that makes me feel daring, and invite my husband into our little world. We’ve built a space where we can play, watch porn, and experiment without judgment. Over a year ago we even introduced DAP with a toy when I got inspired by a couple of porn movies.

My husband has asked about taking one of our shared fantasies further and try double anal for real, and until recently, I always said no. I wasn’t sure, or maybe I wasn’t ready. But something in me has changed. I feel bolder now, more curious, and aware of how much the idea excites both of us. Instead of brushing it aside, I want to embrace it. I know how much this means to him, and it’s starting to mean something to me too. The idea of me being in such a situation thrills me.

So, for New Year’s Eve, I’ve decided to surprise him. No warnings, no hints, just a moment he’s dreamed about and I’m finally ready to give. It’s not just the fantasy of it, I want to show him that even after years of love, parenthood, and routine, I’m still here, wanting, evolving, and unafraid to turn our shared imagination into something real.

I know that he has internally given up to convince me. That is the reason I want to take on this bold move. Any idea how to surprise him without telling him upfront right before?

Lovely to hear about your anal only evolution, and that’s wonderful you’ve been exploring DAP together with a toy and are now considering doing double anal for real. Since introducing another partner into the routine can be a challenge, I think it’s best to train and prepare for it in secret, making sure you’re physically ready, ramp up the frequency of how often you do double anal with your husband and a toy in the lead up, but then tell him if you are ready to introduce a partner and schedule it so that aspect is less of a surprise for him and he can be prepared too.

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Emma: Thank you very much for the previous answer, but it’s not about using toys for me. What I really miss are those wild group sex moments, being the center of attention with so many people wanting me at the same time. The feeling of several bodies around me, everyone just hungry for it, is something I can’t get anywhere else.

And it’s not just about the excitement. I seriously crave the full, stretched-out feeling from double anal, feeling two dicks moving inside of me in different ways, filling me up. That intense sensation, the movement and pressure, just makes me feel alive and wanted in a way nothing else does.

I really love my partner and our emotional connection, but these group experiences and that physical intensity aren’t things he can give me, even with a bigger toy. I’m scared if we ever went to a party together, he wouldn’t be able to keep up or would feel bad about not being able to satisfy these needs.

I just hate feeling caught between needing this wild part of myself and not wanting to hurt the person I love. What should I do?

That’s fair enough, and it seems like if that’s something you really need you need to bring it up with him and share your past and your desires around it. It’s always a risk, but it can lead to great things if he’s open to trying and exploring with you.

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Michalina: I have been AO since I was 16 when I had my first intercourse. I started my journey because I was afraid of pregnancy and I associated vaginal with pain, which is why I still have my hymen. To be honest, this blog helped me make the decision to remain a vaginal virgin.

Since I was 17, I stopped touching my clitoris. I felt guilty and embarrassed that other girls could only use their anus and completely abandon their vagina, and I wanted to achieve that myself. And I finally did it after many attempts. I remember my first full anal orgasm when I screamed and cried with emotion and happiness. Then I became free of my pussy and clitoris completely.

I admit that despite the temptation and persuasion from other girls, I never had cunnilingus. Instead, I chose rimming and oh my God… the feeling is wonderful. I really wish more girls would try it, because I’m sure that just as anal is better than vaginal, rimming is better than cunnilingus.

But what I’m getting at is that I’m 20 years old today and I’ve noticed for a long time that my vagina is drying up. Slowly, gradually, day after day. I used to have a lot of vaginal fluids coming out of it when I was aroused, but today there is very little. I think my vagina will soon be completely dry.

And I’m a little worried. Is it because my pussy is not being used? Should I be concerned? Should I do something about it? Will a dry vagina be a problem when I want to have children?

Congratulations on choosing to remain a vaginal virgin and go pure anal only, that’s wonderful to hear and something you should be so proud of!

Vaginal dryness is something I hear about pretty frequently from women who have gone strictly anal only, and it makes sense: you are effectively reprogramming your pleasure centers to focus on anal, and your body over time stops producing vaginal lubricant and centers arousal on your anus instead. There isn’t much reason to be concerned about this, especially since you intend to remain anal only. It’s a physical symbol of your commitment to anal only and vaginal abandonment, and I think it’s another worthy milestone to celebrate!

Artificial lubricants can always be used to aid in pregnancy/delivery if needed, after all.

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Kasia: I’ve been following this blog for a long time and it’s always been a great motivation for me. I’ve been wondering how to convince more girls to try the AO lifestyle. I’ve come to the conclusion that rimming is what can encourage them to try anal sex.

Many women say that it is the stimulation of the vagina and clitoris with the tongue that gives them the most pleasure and warms them up and prepares them for vaginal sex. Why not try this approach with anal sex? Maybe it’s worth licking the anus of the girl you love, and she’ll be more willing to let you enter her asshole. Take care of her proper hole and in time she will forget about her pussy and clitoris.

I can’t remember the last time I had my vagina and clitoris licked, but I love having my ass licked and kissed like as if it were my second lips. I hope this helps abandon more vaginas and clits in favor of anuses. AO rules!

That’s excellent advice, and rimming as an introduction to anal and regular part of the anal warmup/preparation process is a great way to relax and be ready for penetration. It feels amazing, and more women are admitting to liking it more than cunnilingus, which makes it even easier to consider total vaginal abandonment in favor of anal only.

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Melissa: Hi everyone, I’ve been happily married for almost 10 years. For the past 12 years, I have only done anal sex. In the last couple of years, my husband and I have been sporadically enjoying double anal with a toy, which I really like.

Recently, my husband started expressing his interest a few times in stepping up to real double anal that includes a friend of his or going to a swinger club, like a “sharing your wife” or “gangbang” event. I told him I needed time to think about it. Internally I was shocked! I was raised in a Christian family, though I am not very religious anymore, but some values from that background still influence me in my world views.

I have secretly dreamed though about being in a double anal gangbang, but this is just a fantasy my husband doesn’t know about.

This is a topic I don’t want to discuss with my friends nor with my husband. I hope to find advice here.

My concerns are these: His request makes me feel as if I’m not good enough for him anymore or wonder if he loves me less. Taking this step makes me feel like I might be betraying him and our marriage or even becoming a “whore” because now I had sex with more men.

Also, what if I like this new experience and it changes our relationship because I want to have it on a regular basis? How do I handle the possible changes?

It sounds like you have a wonderful life and marriage, and it’s so fantastic that you’ve been anal only for the past 12 years. That’s definitely something to be proud of!

It sounds like the physicality of double anal is already something that you enjoy, as is the fantasy of a gangbang, but you aren’t sure if you want to take that step with additional partners. I would suggest making double anal a more regular thing with your husband and toys, leaning into the fantasy together but still with just the two of you, and then after a few months, revisit the idea and discuss together how you would like to approach trying it, and talk through potential concerns. You say that you don’t want to discuss it with him, but communication in the relationship is key with anything, especially something like this.

I will say this: your husband wanting to try this you is not likely a sign he loves you less, but likely that he adores you and wants to try something you both enjoy together along with additional partners. It’s not a betrayal of him or becoming a “whore”, it’s a celebration of what you have together and expanding it to trying an experience that you might both love.

Very likely you will both love the experience and want to do it more regularly. Having that baseline of regular DAP with a toy will help with that as you decide how best to introduce other partners into your routine.

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