Message: Why Aren’t More People Having Anal Sex?
John: I am an American contractor working in Kazakhstan. While working here I met a woman and we began a relationship. The county is predominantly Muslim. Although she is not, many of her friends are. Although Kazakhstan has become much more open to the use of birth control methods, a woman must visit her doctor to obtain them. In the area I work, a doctor will not issue birth control to a woman who is not married. So, when our relationship progressed to the point of wanting to have sex, I was surprised how nonchalantly she told me virtually all non-married women here practice anal sex as their form of birth control. She said it was so common, that she didn’t know anyone who didn’t have anal sex. Even after marriage, most couples continue to practice anal sex to avoid pregnancy. As she had two boyfriends prior to meeting me, she was already experienced at practicing anal sex. I, on the other hand, had never experienced anal sex in any of my prior relationships. I was always turned on by anal sex in adult movies, but thought it was really only something done in the movies.
I was amazed how much better anal sex feels than a woman’s vagina. It was as if I was experiencing sex for the first time. It was the greatest orgasm I’d ever experienced. The feeling of unloading my balls deep in her ass, as she experienced her own orgasm, was unlike anything I’d ever experienced. Although the women I slept with in the past had orgasms, hers seemed more primal. Her ass felt like it was milking my cock dry inside her. She let out a cry of passion as the last of my cum exploded deep into her. As we lay in bed recovering, I asked her if anal sex was always like this. She told me it was. At that moment I was hooked. I could honestly say that I didn’t care if I ever had vaginal sex again. I asked her if she thought she would continue to have anal sex when married. She said she did. She believes having sex in a woman’s vagina is only for the purpose of reproduction.
We are now engaged to be married in October. We’re hoping that, when my company’s contract expires in 2025 she will be able to immigrate to the United States as my wife. Eventually, we hope some of her family can come to the United States as well.
We’ve now been together for more than a year and still have anal sex almost every day. I was amazed that I never knew so many people here have anal sex. Thanks to a VPN (Kazakhstan is not the kind of place you search the internet for this kind of thing) I was able to find your blog and discover there are others who, whether by necessity or choice, only have anal sex. After experiencing it myself, I can’t say I’m surprised. What I’m more surprised about is that more people aren’t having anal sex.
While it is certainly surprising that anal sex isn’t more universally embraced as the primary form of sex that everyone has, there are a lot more out there practicing it than openly talk about or admit to it, both as a form of birth control and just out of preference for it. Conscious adoption of the anal only lifestyle has grown significantly in recent years, but there are also numerous cultures out there like you describe who already prioritize anal over vaginal and take the much healthier and more natural view that anal is for non-procreative sex and vaginal is for procreative sex.
Through education and increased experimentation with anal, and a cultural shift away from the negativity and taboo surrounding it, as well as the recognition that anal is far healthier a birth control method than hormonal birth control that comes with so many side effects for so many women, I have no doubt that widespread adoption of anal as the primary form of sex and the anal only lifestyle will follow.