Month: May 2020


Discussion: Do You Like Anal Sex or Is It Taboo For You?

That’s the question a Quora user asks, followed by this response.

I love it. It took me a long time to ask my hub to do it and a longer time to get him to try it. He is above average in size and I think he always worried about hurting me. We took it really slow and built up our technique – tip: LOTS of lubricant! – until it became a regular part of our lovemaking. I love when he takes me from behind and works himself into my butt while he stimulates my clit. The orgasms I get from that are amazing and truthfully I prefer it to regular sex. Sometimes he finishes in my butt, which is awesome, and sometimes he gives me a facial, which is another dirty pleasure I love.

Lauren Connor, Quora

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Reddit: Is Clit Denial Worth It?

So I love anal…a lot. Crave it. Was wondering if clit denial will make anal even better? My partner likes the idea of no clit stimulation, says not touching my clit but knowing how badly I want it makes him so hard. Any other guys feel that way?

Several good responses:

For me teasing my clit without cumming makes me desperate for anal and I cum harder from anal with some clit stimulation.

Just one more way to enjoy your partner and your body. Exploring your limits and finding out how many ways you’re body experiencing bliss is just an amazing journey. Teasing the pain/pleasure thread hold open so many great memories.

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How You Can Help Spread the Anal Only Lifestyle

The anal only lifestyle has grown organically over the past decade, starting its organized discussion online with several blogs and growing into the larger community that exists today across multiple platforms, and with many individual anal only people sharing their experiences on their own blogs and other non-anal only communities. Anal only is starting to become less niche and bleed into other groups and see more widespread adoption. Still, if we want it to become far more of the norm and a mainstream thing for the average person to adopt, we still have a long way to go to reach everyone and encourage and guide them towards trying and embracing a life of pure anal sex. Here are some ideas on how you can help!

Post About it Online

There are lots of ways you can share your own experiences and desires about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, and providing many different voices and perspectives on this across a wide variety of platforms not only helps people in similar situations relate to your story and feel less alone in their own experiences, it ensures that the anal only lifestyle and positive discussion about anal sex reaches a broader audience.

  • Join the Anal Only Lifestyle forum, Discord server and subreddit, and talk with other like-minded people
  • Share your story or ask questions right here on the Anal Only Lifestyle blog
  • Create a blog on Bdsmlr, which has taken over from Tumblr as the premier sex and porn microblogging platform for sharing and expressing and exploring one’s sexuality and kinks, and which has a small but growing anal only community forming
  • Start and join discussions about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle on other platforms, including Twitter (here’s a Twitter search that helps find existing discussions about preferring anal or going anal only), Fetlife, HipForums, Reddit, Quora, and any other platform that has discussions about sex and anal. Share your own experiences, and help spread anal positivity and the concept of going anal only and its advantages.

Support Anal Only Porn

There are certain porn producers out there which focus much more on anal porn and produce 100% anal only scenes, at least some of the time. There are also a number of “amateur” content creators who post directly to places like PornHub or ManyVids and produce and sell their own content, often primarily or exclusively anal only. If you’re able, financially support the production of anal only porn by paying for that content and encouraging them to continue focusing on pure anal.

Tell Your Friends

If you’re comfortable talking about sex with your friends, tell them about loving anal and being anal only, and how much you like it and what its benefits are for you, then if they show interest in it, encourage and help them to go anal only too. Provide them with resources like our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle, dispel any concerns they have, and give them any advice of your own that you have on enjoying anal and the process of first going anal only. Challenge them to try it for a month or two, whether as part of Anal Only April or No Pussy November each year, or just on their own, and support them during that challenge period so they have the best possible experience and will want to stick with it afterwards.

Be Open When Dating About Only Doing Anal

If you’re single and dating, be sure to be honest with new partners about your anal only status or interest and that you aren’t interested in having vaginal sex, only anal. It may eliminate some uninterested potential partners, but it’s worth talking about it early on so that you figure out if you’re compatible before ending up in a relationship and being sexually frustrated the whole time.

If you’re hooking up with someone, tell them right up front that you only do anal. If you’re trying to date for a long term relationship, hold off to talk about anal only until you would normally start talking about sex, and get to know them as a person a bit first. But make it an early part of your sexual conversation.

Support the Anal Only Lifestyle Community

A large part of the Anal Only Lifestyle community online is managed by just one person, yours truly, and it takes quite a bit of time and effort (and some money, too) to keep things all running and updated with fresh content for everyone to enjoy and be inspired by.

  • This blog posts every one to two days, depending on my time and availability, and the availability of content. In addition to writing original posts once a week, I answer people’s submitted questions and shared stories, and search the internet for other interesting anal and anal only-related content to share. It can be hard to find enough content to fill the space sometimes, especially during periods when not many people are submitting their own stories and questions to share on the blog, so this can be time consuming.
  • I run multiple anal only blogs on Bdsmlr, after transferring all said blogs off Tumblr. These blogs post between 1 and 6 times a day, and I keep their queues filled with original and reblogged content and captions to inspire and arouse people, with varying anal only-related themes.
  • I maintain and moderate the Anal Only Lifestyle forum, Discord server, and subreddit. We also have a small team of other moderators on the forum and Discord who are a great help.

I also have a full time job that often requires me to be unavailable and offline for extended lengths of time, so content on the blogs—this one included—are queued up in advance so that the schedule continues uninterrupted for everyone to keep reading and then I update and shuffle things around to answer people’s questions more quickly rather than simply adding onto the end of the queue when I’m able while away for work.

As such, if you’re able to help in one of various ways, your support is greatly appreciated.

  • You can buy the Amazon ebook version of our Guide to Anal Sex and the Anal Only Lifestyle and help support us financially with a simple purchase that provides you with a nice reference with a lot of useful information about having anal sex and going anal only.
  • You can join our Patreon and provide a small monthly financial contribution to support the continuing development of this community and ongoing creation and sharing of content for your enjoyment and that of others.
  • You can share interesting articles, posts, and discussions that you find online, ask questions to be answered publicly on this blog, write guest articles, or otherwise help provide content to be added to the blog queue, through our Ask and Submit page.

Thanks to everyone for reading, sharing, and helping support the anal only lifestyle in whatever way you’re able.

Message: Telling a Guy I Want to Lose My Virginity to Anal Only

This message was sent to the Anal Only Bdsmlr porn blog, and is being cross-posted here.

Anonymous: Starting out my sex life, if one would like to really be anal only. You think it would be creepy for a young girl to ask a boy for anal the first time? Or exlpain she only wants to do it if it’s anally? Just being aware that it’s not common enough yet, but really wanted to keep it anal only

Not at all. If anal only is what you want, tell that to someone if you’re going to have sex with them. If they don’t respect that, then you shouldn’t be having sex with them anyway.

Now, you may not want to just say it right away if you just met them. Get to know them, and when you’re ready to have sex, bring it up and start talking about it.

Tell him that you want to be anal only and not do vaginal sex, and chances are he’ll love it.

Message: Double Anal With Boyfriend & Roommate in Quarantine

Anonymous: I live in a city that requires everyone to stay at home unless they have to go out, so my boyfriend and I have been staying in with my roommate for several weeks.

We are all very close. We have done a few threesomes before, and we have always done it spitroasting, because my boyfriend and I have only done anal for a few years, and I have not done vaginal or DP.

In any case, since the isolation began, we have been fucking non-stop, and since our friend has no girlfriend and is trapped at home, we have always included him so much that we are more like now a three-way relationship. I don’t know if this will continue, but it’s actually really hot, and I like to have two boyfriends to concentrate on me and get their frustration of being trapped out in my ass.

We have talked to him about anal only, he also prefers anal, so this is not a problem, but we started to read the blog together and showed him our favorite things and ideas, we saw a lot of double anal has been mentioned, so we thought we want to try it.

We first did a lot of exercises with toys, and then we did it. Once we figured out the position (I like cowgirl and reverse cowgirl best, you can put the second dick in the best position), it ’s easy . We’ve fucked enough, it didn’t hurt at all, but when they started to fuck me, it was almost to much pleasure. I think you can say that I fell in love with it immediately, and I soon reached a climax.

Afterwards, both of them said that they loved it too, so we decided to try it once or twice a week now to let my butt rest between, although it has not been so painful so far. We still fuck a few times a day in the usual way, because there is actually nothing else to do, and I think this has made us all more intimate, and hope we can maintain this state. Well, we will not get out soon, so we will keep going as much as we can. Even if I have been fucked so much, I am so horny! I just keep looking forward to the next time, I want them both in my ass again!

Thank you for sharing your experiences! It sounds like you’re making the most of this otherwise trying time, and it’s great to hear that it’s opened you up (in more ways than one!) to new anal experiences. Double anal is certainly becoming an increasingly popular thing for women to do, and I always like hearing from more people who are doing it. It’s a unique sensation that’s different from anything else sexually, and can be intensely pleasurable when done right—and it sounds like you’re doing it right!

It’s smart to ease into it, even if it’s wonderful for all of you. You might certainly be able before long to get to where you can do it every day, but making sure you don’t injure yourself or get too sore is a very good idea, and do more each week until you’re all getting it as much as you want!

Why It’s Time for Double Penetration to End

For decades, the staple of group sex scenes in pornography has been the vaginal/anal double penetration, where two partners simultaneously penetrate a woman’s vagina and anus.

As people embrace anal sex more and more and it becomes the default or exclusive form of sex for many, interest in vaginal penetration has declined, and traditional double penetration has fallen from its once heralded status as the ultimate way to have sex with two other people at once.

Instead, double anal is becoming the new standard, along with anal/oral double penetration. This is a very good thing and should be encouraged and supported by porn actors, producers and viewers worldwide. Some producers, like LegalPorno, already primarily focus on double anal, with dozens of actresses averaging between 80% and 100% of their scenes being double anal in recent years, but there’s room for this to continue improving and to move away from traditional double penetration entirely. Vaginal penetration simply doesn’t improve porn, it holds it back from its true potential and appeal.

And this doesn’t just apply to pornography, it applies to real world sex as well! Double anal is becoming more popular as anal sex, anal play, and the anal only lifestyle continue to be adopted by more people, and women around the world are starting to have sex with two men in their ass at the same time as their outlet for group sex rather than vaginal/anal double penetration.

Let’s keep this up, and end double penetration in favor of pure anal and double anal.

Message: Why Anal Only?

K: For what reason would one go anal only?

There are lots of reasons why, and different people do it for different reasons!

  • Anal is more pleasurable. Done correctly, many people find anal to be more enjoyable than vaginal sex, and if they prefer it, it makes sense to want to focus primarily or exclusively on it, especially if vaginal isn’t very good in comparison.
  • Anal is more intimate. It can require more trust and communication, and it’s a more private and sensitive part of a woman’s body, so having anal sex leads to increased intimacy, and the act of going anal only builds that intimacy even more and can be great for a relationship.
  • Anal is natural birth control, and if you don’t have other forms of birth control available, or don’t want to pay for them, or have negative side effects from them, going anal only makes a lot of sense as a free, natural way to have sex without getting pregnant.
  • It can be a fun, sexy secret to know that you only do anal sex and vaginal is off the table. Lots of people think this is a real turn on, and makes them feel sexy, dirty, slutty, or whatever appeals to them.
  • For those in a dom/sub relationship, it can be another way to work within that dynamic, as many women find that anal sex makes them feel more feminine and submissive, and going anal only can be a great act of submission to their partner. However, for those who aren’t into this, enjoying anal doesn’t inherently make one submissive. It just taps into the sort of things that submissive people already enjoy.

There are many more reasons, and this blog has many existing articles on the topic as well! Here’s one classic post on the topic to get you started with additional reading.

Anal Only April 2020 Is Over

Craving something new? Why not go anal only for a whole month? Challenge yourself to Anal Only April.

It’s always a sad day when one of our anal only challenge months ends, because they can tend to be a whirlwind of fun activity as everyone gets involved and builds off each other’s enthusiasm for sexual exploration and the anal only lifestyle to all support and encourage each other to go anal only together, but it’s also a time for celebration for all those who made it through a month of anal only and came out the other side no doubt improved in various ways.

If you’ve stayed anal only all month and found yourself really enjoying it and not especially missing vaginal sex, don’t let this be the end. Keep the streak going, see how far you make it, or even just commit to long term anal only if you feel that’s what you now want. If a month of anal only feels great, think of how amazing two or three months, six months, or a year and beyond will feel! It just keeps getting better.

If you are just discovering this now, or haven’t have a chance to try it yet, it’s not too late to get started! You can start your own month-long anal only challenge at any time!

Don’t forget to check in with us now that the month is over and let us know how your Anal Only April went, what your experiences were, what you learned, and whether you plan on continuing with long-term anal only going forward!