Message: A Girl’s Perspective on a Lack of Vaginal Sex and Virginity
Anonymous: I wanted to offer a different viewpoint that might seem odd, but for me is important. 🙂 I’m a girl, and I’ve never had vaginal sex of any kind (I’ve rarely ever even fingered myself; it’s thanks to vaginismus.) That said, I don’t think I’d consider myself a “virgin”. To me, having a dick up my ass means I am a virgin no longer, even if “technically” I might still be a virgin in society’s eyes. I believe spreading the view that no vaginal sex = virgin even if you’ve had anal sex is disappointing and honestly not necessarily true in my honest opinion. Just wanted to offer this perspective. Love the website, so glad I found it! 🙂 Makes me feel very validated and confident in myself, as an anal only girl.
I agree completely! Having sex means you aren’t a virgin, and having anal sex is just as legitimate a sex act as vaginal is. Either counts towards not being a virgin anymore. Someone acting like you can stay a virgin by doing anal is lowering the value of anal sex in the process and saying that it’s not an equal act to vaginal.
However, if you only have anal sex, you are still a vaginal virgin if you haven’t had vaginal sex, and vice versa for an anal virgin if you’ve only done vaginal. I use that terminology on this blog to differentiate between people like yourself who have never had vaginal sex at all, and those who have gone anal only after having done vaginal in the past. It does not mean that one is a virgin in a general sense or somehow inexperienced sexually.
The idea of doing anal sex to preserve one’s virginity comes out of an entirely ridiculous concept of avoiding sex before marriage for religious reasons, and while I appreciate the effects it has on more people trying out anal sex early on and learning how good it is, it would be best if that entire concept went away and people instead just did anal because it’s better.
I know that there’s a special place in my heart for women who are anal only vaginal virgins, because as someone who seriously appreciates and prefers anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, there’s something so special about someone who chooses not to (or is unable to) have vaginal sex at all, ever, and only wants to do anal from the very start.
Thank you very much for the message and welcome to the Anal Only Lifestyle community! I’m glad you found us.
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