So begins an AMA on Reddit by a young woman who has only ever had anal sex and prefers anal. When asked how she knows that she prefers anal without having lost her vaginal virginity, she answers:
Because I’ve tried vaginal penetration through methods other than sex (fingering, dildos, etc). And did not enjoy them nearly as much as I enjoyed anal sex
Anal sex is nothing new, and neither is the concept of the anal only lifestyle. There are multiple examples throughout history of civilizations which frequently and openly practiced anal sex as a regular and equal part of their sex lives, in many cases using it as a form of birth control, engaging in anal sex for their day-to-day pleasure and intimacy and only having vaginal sex to get pregnant.
The Moche people lived in northern Peru between approximately 100 to 700 CE. They left behind extensive ceramic pots with intricately carved scenes, many of which are sexual in nature, and which almost exclusively depict anal sex, with vaginal virtually non-existent in depictions.
Many theories have been developed to try and explain this as some sort of symbolism, or various belief systems, but far more likely is that their culture simply recognized that anal could provide pleasure and intimacy without the often unwanted and negative effects of vaginal sex, and used it as a form of birth control—or simply preferred anal pleasure for its countless benefits beyond the inability to get pregnant from it.
Other scholars believe the absence of vaginal sex in the pottery could also be indicative of another form of gender equality that gives women the same right to physical pleasure as men. By portraying women as in control of their own bodies, with their own sexual agency, the erotic ceramics might cast them as more than just future child-bearers whose value relies on their virginity.
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Records show that anal was considered to be a normal and non-taboo part of sex in ancient Sumeria, and there are frequent references to it. In addition, certain priestesses were forbidden to produce offspring and so adopted an anal only lifestyle in order to ensure they did not become pregnant.
In addition to the more commonly known homosexual activities in Ancient Greece, Greek courtesans (and likely many others) frequently went anal only as a form of birth control.
I want to thank you for this blog, discovering it changed my life and my outlook on anal sex. I wanted to learn more about it because my boyfriend wanted anal but I didn’t find the idea sexy and didn’t even want to try. But after reading people’s stories and how good it could feel and how sexy it was to them, I got really turned on and decided to try it myself. I tried it by myself first, like you say, and then I had my boyfriend start to play with my ass, and last month we started having anal sex for the first time.
I really, really love it. And I never would have done it without this blog. So thank you. If any other girls are out there who are curious but afraid to try, don’t wait, try it for yourself! It’s amazing.
I’m glad I was able to inspire you to get over your fears of anal and try it for yourself! So many people refuse to try it because of their misconceptions and end up missing out on the best way to have sex as a result.
Now that you know how enjoyable anal sex is, maybe your next step should be trying to go anal only for a few months and see how much better it gets when you eliminate vaginal entirely!
A Quora user asks that question, and receives the following answer:
There are many possible reasons.
Psychological – doing something “unusual”, or that a woman thinks makes her more desirable or sexy. This is a short term and honestly quite fake pleasure.
The anus for many (men and women) is very sensual and produces a great pleasure.
It may provide (with the proper knowledge and mastery on behalf of the partner) access with different quality to various areas of the woman’s erogenous areas, mainly the G-spot (region actually) and glands in the area. Some women would achieve more intense female ejaculation and/or orgasms from anal sex.
It can provide a sense of a much deeper penetration which is pleasurable for many.
Since it is very pleasurable for many men – the woman will sense their elevated sexual energy and respond to it.
The recommendation would be for cautiously trying it, testing it. With communication, sensitivity, care and slowly.
Only if you both find it pleasurable do it. Don’t force it upon yourself for any reason.
Ben Shomer, Quora
Still looking for a last-minute Valentine’s Day gift to give your boyfriend? If you aren’t already anal only together, why not go anal only for him? Whether it’s for the day, for a week, or for a month, tell him you want him to have anal sex with you as often as he wants without doing vaginal at all.
And if you are already anal only, this could be the opportunity to introduce something new, like clitoral denial, long-term butt plug wear, or working up to double anal, fisting or larger anal toy use into your routine.
And if by the end of your day, week, or month of anal only, you find that you really enjoyed it, just keep going with it! A trial period like this is a great way to discover that you actually prefer being anal only.
That’s the question a Reddit user asks, and receives a few good responses, including the following.
I love having my ass filled with cum. I like the feeling of the dick in my ass and it makes me feel like a dirty whore and it’s especially great when you do it for a guy that hasn’t been able to experience it with another girl.
An Anal Only Lifestyle forum user asks this question:
Anal orgasms are more pleasurable, there is something, well, deeply satisfying in having ass stimulated, but does body really treat anal orgasms in the same way as genital ones? Isn’t it that anal orgasms are, technically speaking, side effects of (very) high arousal and indirect stimulation of genital nerves, but despite feeling better they aren’t full orgasms?
analytical, Anal Only Lifestyle forum
Being anal only seems (at least to me) like a continuous chastity with no way to reduce arousal and using some other part of the body to achieve huge sexual pleasure (including kinkiness of playing with ass and rectum), but never full release.
A question for folks who have been anal only for long: does it feel like chastity for you?
Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure: A Women’s Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve, loves sex toys, believes the world is much too porno-phobic, and thinks more women should give anal sex a try.
In other words, she’s the gynecologist every guy wants his girlfriend to meet.
Among the many sexually taboo topics, anal sex is probably one of the most well known.
All guys seem to want it, while all girls seem to hate it.
But Dr. Hutcherson believes that more women might actually find out that they like it if they give it a try. Women who don’t enjoy anal sex, she says, are probably doing it wrong.
For humans, sex is rarely about the practicality of reproduction. That is a part of it, but it occupies only a small portion of the sexual activity in one’s life. Instead, it’s about pleasure and intimacy between partners, shared enjoyment and bonding.
When people have tried both anal and vaginal and given both a fair chance and are able to enjoy both without pain or discomfort, anal nearly always comes out ahead, and it’s no question that it’s more pleasurable than vaginal. The general pleasure is better, and the orgasms are far more intense through anal.
Even among those who vastly prefer anal, however, being anal only is less common. Vaginal is still seen as the default, and people think they should still be doing it even if they don’t enjoy it compared to anal. It’s time for that attitude to go away and for people to adopt anal as their default instead. Vaginal’s only benefit is in reproduction, so why not leave it for that only, and enjoy the vast pleasures of anal instead every other time?
Anonymous: Hi – I’m a big fan of your site. I wanted to suggest one more cleanliness tip that works well for me: Metamucil.
Drink a glass of Metamucil (or generic equivalent) after every meal, starting at least 24 hours before sex.
It has a nice effect on the stool, making it solid and soft/firm so that it all comes out at once and with good consistency. It makes pre-anal prep much more pleasant (and sometimes not necessary at all).
Just want to throw it out to you as an idea – I’ve been trying to share it with others as I don’t often see it mentioned! Perhaps it could be added to your guide.
Thanks for the message and tip—it’s a good one for sure, if you don’t get enough dietary fiber from the food that you eat, a fiber supplement like Metamucil can work very well to help with hygiene.
If you want to do this regularly, and don’t want to spend the money for Metamucil, you can make your own similar equivalent with bulk ingredients by mixing 2 parts flax seed, 1 part lightly ground chia seed, and 1 part psyllium husk.