Month: December 2018

Anal Only New Year 2019

This New Year, Make an Anal Only Resolution. Give up pussy, go anal only, January 1.

The time of new year’s resolutions is upon us, and if you aren’t currently enjoying an anal only lifestyle, consider this your prompt to move on from vaginal sex and go anal only yourself. Starting January 1, 2019, replace all vaginal sex and masturbation with anal instead. Anal is the way of the future, while vaginal is rapidly becoming a thing of the past for many people. Don’t you think it’s time you found out what the anal only lifestyle is all about for yourself?

And if you’re already anal only, this can be a good time to review your current implementation of the anal only lifestyle and see if there’s anything new that you would like to add into the mix, whether it be experimenting with clitoral denial and trying to focus on anal only orgasms, incorporating ass to mouth into your routine, starting to wear a butt plug more regularly for a constant reminder of anal pleasure or just as a practical tool to make frequent anal sex easier, experimenting with chastity devices or piercings, or anything else that appeals to you!

Be sure to check out our brand new Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page for information on introducing anal play and sex into your life, going anal only, and far more! And if you decide to make anal only your new year’s resolution, be sure to leave a comment or send us a message.

2018 Anal Only Lifestyle Roundup

Read our previous roundup for 2017 here.

2018 was a big year for the Anal Only Lifestyle community, with some major changes—some positive, some negative, but all helping it evolve and move further into the future.

Our Tumblr blogs nearly reached 150,000 followers for the most active blog, and collectively had well over 200,000 followers. The number of other anal only blogs continued to grow this year as well, and discussion of and interest in anal only remained quite active.

However, just this past month Tumblr announced it was banning all adult content as of December 17, 2018, and that was the end of that. A platform perfectly suited to growing interest in the anal only lifestyle was suddenly gone. Fortunately, our community was designed from the start with the possibility of this happening, and we were already spread across multiple platforms with our Forum and Discord server, as well as this blog being set up on its own domain despite still pointing to Tumblr. We quickly archived all our blog content and set out to migrate this blog off Tumblr, manually moving over 1,800 posts from this and its counterpart blogs into a new self-hosted format that gives us far more control and independence from future platform censorship.

Our forum had slow growth and little activity for much of the year, suffering from changes to Google ranking that kept it largely hidden from relevant search queries. Tumblr’s changes last year to the public visibility and search engine indexing of adult oriented blogs made quite an impact as well, causing many of the internet’s links to the forum to disappear from Google’s view. Now, at the end of the year, however, it appears this is finally changing thanks to the new blog and its wealth of high quality links to the forum reappearing to search engines. Both the blog and forum now appear on the front page of many queries, and visitation and membership have grown significantly.

Also helping membership on the forum and Discord server is the Tumblr shutdown, which has sent readership to countless blogs scattering across multiple platforms, and it’s no different for us. After posting about the imminent demise of Tumblr, the forum grew by over 800 members and passed 2,000 members last week, while the Discord server has nearly 2,000 new members.

In other news, we had two successful anal only challenge months this year, debuting Anal Only April for the first time—which was quite the success!—and celebrating the sixth annual No Pussy November. You can read about both in our archive (another new addition!) and perhaps get inspired to participate yourself this next year if you didn’t previously.

We just launched a new section of this blog, the Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle page, which strives to answer many of the common questions people have about anal sex and going anal only. The process of migrating posts from the old blog to this one made it obvious just how many times some of the same questions were asked and answered over the years, and consolidating that information into a single resource that can be edited, updated, and expanded over time for all to see and benefit from seemed like an obvious step forward. Feel free to suggest any topics you’d like to see added, and keep checking back for updates to this section.

Some will no doubt be wondering what’s next for the companion porn blogs that accompanied this blog on Tumblr. At this time, there are no particular plans as there simply aren’t any suitable platforms to move forward with in the same way as on Tumblr, but we’re watching the various options out there and experimenting with them as they become available and continue to improve. When and if a decision is made to resume posting in that format, an announcement will be made on this blog, and you can also check in on our Anal Only Porn Blogs page where the various popular Tumblr blogs are tracked to see where they migrate to.

Now, it’s your turn. How was your year, both in a general sense, and as it relates to the anal only lifestyle? What’s next for you, and what do you hope to achieve? And, what would you like to see next with the Anal Only Lifestyle blog and greater community? Share all your ideas and suggestions, and we’ll work towards achieving them.

Stay anal only, and stay tuned. We’ve got a lot of exciting new things planned for 2019.

Message: My Spastic Butthole

Buttlyn: Ok. This is the second message I send to the blog and I hope you answer it too.

I’m the brazilian girl who had a broken pussy and a anal addicted boyfriend (nowadays my husband), but wanted to try v****** “sex”. It’s improbable that you remember, but ok. Here I go.

I have a soft brain palsy what made almost every muscle of mine more rigid than normal, including my butthole. It sucks.

At this point, I suppose that you already can guess what my problem is. Yeah, I discovered that’s the reason why I can’t be penetrated in my wronghole. But it also disturbs my pleasure while doing anal.

I don’t want to fuck using a anesthetic lube or this kind of shit, but I cannot train my butthole’s endurance because I have no control over it. Sometimes I watch those porn girls doing huge insertions, fisting and hatefuck and I feel like crying, full of envy. I feel myself impotent, like I’m not enough, like I’ll never become a more-than-good buttslut to my husband. My ass does not even loose up if I’m not rubbing my clit, and I cannot masturbate my asshole at the same time because I have only one functional hand.

I couldn’t give my man a nice Christmas assfucking due this problem. I’m about to freak out! Please, help me! My case is too specific for Google.

I suspect I would remember your earlier message, but I’m not sure offhand from just what you’ve said here. If you find your previous message in our archives, feel free to send a link to me and I can cross-link or tag them so that readers can easily follow the full conversation across posts.

Definitely don’t use an anesthetic lube, as that will only mask any pain, not prevent the root issue of muscle tightness/cramping. And where there’s pain, there’s risk of injury as a result of those tight muscles. What you need is a way to relax and warm up your muscles instead.

While it sounds like you’re experienced with anal sex at this point, you might want to go back to the early stages of anal training for solo play on your own and as warmup before sex. Lie on your side and rub your clit or use a vibrator on it while rubbing across and around your anus with a finger from your other hand and try to relax your anal muscles as you do so, then slip your finger inside as you feel ready to do so, and keep gradually going up in size from there. If smaller sizes cause you no trouble, try working around the edge of where larger sizes cause difficulty and discomfort. Even without such a medical condition, everyone has some anal muscles they can learn to consciously control and others that are involuntary, so while it may be more difficult for you, there may still be some benefits to working on this more often. Read our new anal training guide for more details on this topic if needed.

Depending on how much warmup you do before sex, you may need to do the above before you start a session, as well as rubbing your clit while your husband performs oral sex on your ass to further help it relax.

For clitoral stimulation during anal masturbation, you might look for a clitoral vibrator that attaches and stays in places so you don’t need to hold it. Venus butterfly vibrators and others similar to this sit in place over your pussy with bands that go around your legs to hold it there so it can keep vibrating against your clit hands-free.

Similarly, a dildo with a suction cup can help you to masturbate hands-free while you have one hand on your clit and ride up and down on a dildo without needing to hold it.

Finally, a doctor may be able to suggest exercises to help with pelvic floor muscle tightness or spasms, and may be able to prescribe muscle relaxers as well. I am not a doctor, a while I can offer suggestions on adapting certain techniques to help with people who have difficulty with tightness, discomfort or pain, I’m far from an expert on specific conditions.

I hope this is at least somewhat helpful, however, and I absolutely wish you the best in figuring out a way to effectively and consistently enjoy anal sex to the full extent of what you want. Do please feel free to follow up if you have more questions or updates.

I’ve also sent this post to someone from the Anal Only Lifestyle Discord server who can provide more perspective and a more detailed answer regarding your condition, and they will be responding in the comments of this post, so be sure to check back there as well.

Article: Why Trying Anal Sex Should Be Your New Year’s Resolution

As 2018 winds down and we settle into the swing of the holiday season, it’s time to start thinking about the New Year’s resolutions we want to set for the year ahead. Although practical things like saving money, landing a new job, or forming healthy habits are totally worthwhile goals to set, the truth is that your New Year’s resolutions don’t have to be all work and no play – and if you’ve been curious about anal play, the start of the new year is the perfect time to experiment.

“Patience, communication, slowing down – all of these are pillars in a pleasurable anal experience,” says Alicia Sinclair, sex educator and CEO of b-Vibe, a company that makes body-safe anal play products. “These are great traits to apply to your sex life in 2019, and anal play is the perfect way to explore them.”

And if you already practice anal sex, 2019 can be your opportunity to try going anal only as your new year’s resolution instead.

Continue reading at Refinery29

Discussion: Prefer Anal Over Vaginal Sex

That’s the topic of a thread over on WeddingBee, where a user asks:

I am just curious if others prefer anal over vaginal sex..I was diagnosed with having uterine fibroids which cause me to have bad cramps and pain everyday plus I am going through menopause so I have vaginal dryness..When we start foreplay I am fine but not long after I dry up so I much prefer anal cause it seems to feel better plus I can orgasm…I thought about using creams for the dryness but kinds concerned of the affects from the creams…Anyone else experience the same problem and prefer anal?

I’ve heard similar stories many times, where with age, pregnancy, or as the result of various medical conditions, women find vaginal sex becomes very uncomfortable, unpleasant, or even painful, and turn to anal for continued intimacy, pleasure and sexual expression, finding it far more enjoyable and quickly coming to prefer it.

Of course, anal already has a lot going for it even without an inability to enjoy painless vaginal sex, but for those unable to have vaginal, anal provides a welcome alternative.

While some of the responses are positive and supportive, or even curious, others are very opposed to the idea and spread false myths:

The back door is an exit only. It is not meant for that kind of… attention. So take special care. A surprising number of people end up in the ER due to anal sex mishaps. I don’t see why you wouldn’t just use lube. It’s not as if your anus is self-lubricating, so I assume you are already using lube. Anyways, if you like it, that’s fine but vaginal lubes are perfectly safe.

It’s time for this myth to die. Anal sex will not cause you to end up in the ER. And she’s not using lube for vaginal because she, in her own words, says that she prefers anal. Good grief.

Some others do share a similar preference, however.

Yep! It is actually what I started with.. and did for years, so I came to prefer it. It hurts doing it the “regular way” -_- Of course, it can hurt also if you don’t take certain obvious precautions lol..

I love it, probably more than vaginal sex!! My fiancé isn’t as keen but he complies ? I’m a bit weird, I love the feeling afterwards, I like the pain, like he’s left his mark hahaha! I’m sick I know

And others comment on the judgmental attitudes expressed by some:

Wow, there’s a lot of judgy folks on here! Just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean it’s inherently “gross” or wrong. There’s lots of sexual activities that I’d admit don’t interest me, but have large followings for other people who DO enjoy them.

I really like anal, and we do it pretty often, but not all the time. I have to be in the right mood for the intense pleasure it offers. It’s certainly not “only an exit” (as evidenced by all the people who LIKE it an an entrance!) nor does it guarantee a mess all over your partner (has never happened to me in 6 years of anal). I don’t do any special preparation other than usually only doing it if I’ve already “emptied” earlier that day ?

It’s all about what makes you and your partner feel good! If all parties consent that’s all that matters.

All told, however, it shows the persistent and pervasive myths and negative attitudes towards anal that many people hold, and which need to continue to be countered by positive accounts and honesty about what it’s really like when done properly from those who enjoy it.

Continue Reading at WeddingBee

Article: “I prefer anal sex—but is it safe?”

Vaginal sex has never been any good for me. It’s not especially painful – only at first and then I feel mostly numb and a bit icky. I’ve always done it in relationships, but when my fiancé guessed I didn’t like it much we stopped completely. That was over a year ago. Since then we’ve explored alternatives and our sex life is great. I’ve found the best way for me to orgasm is through anal sex and using a vibrator on my clitoris. My boyfriend, I think, would prefer vaginal. Last night I went to a talk about women, confidence and pleasure. One of the speakers was asked about anal sex and said it was just something that was fashionable – that no woman likes it; those who do it are just pretending to be cool to keep their boyfriends happy; and that men who want it are likely gay or bi. They also said it’s a health risk and harms your body, but didn’t explain how. This has made me very anxious. Should we stop?

So begins an article at The Telegraph. This is why people who don’t know anything about anal sex shouldn’t be talking authoritatively about it and spreading myths and fear. Here’s a woman safely practicing anal sex and the anal only lifestyle, and greatly preferring it to vaginal, and she’s being falsely told that she’s wrong to prefer it because no woman actually likes it, and that it’s harmful.

I wasn’t at the talk you went to – but it’s a real shame you left an event about ‘women, confidence and pleasure’ feeling worried and uncertain.

It’s also not clear if the speaker was sharing their own opinions about anal sex, or if they were speaking in a more official, educational capacity.

Either way it doesn’t really matter.

They may have their reasons for disapproving of anal sex. But not all they said was accurate.

Unfortunately, the response ends up taking a similar tone towards the end and though it hedges it a bit by saying that it’s her choice to prefer anal, she should try to enjoy vaginal sex instead.

While enjoying anal is evidently your preference and choice, I did want to pick up on why you don’t like vaginal sex. You say “It’s not especially painful, I just feel mostly numb during it and it feels a bit icky”.  I don’t want to talk you into something you don’t like, but if vaginal sex has always been a source of physical discomfort it might be worth finding out why, rather than dismissing it.

Not everyone enjoys vaginal sex, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Stop trying to make it what’s “normal” and disliking it “abnormal”, and instead recognize that some prefer vaginal, some prefer anal, some prefer oral, and some have other preferences yet. Being anal only is a perfectly valid choice and preference for many people.

Continue Reading at The Telegraph

Announcing the new Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle

Merry Christmas! For years, we’ve been answering questions about anal sex and the anal only lifestyle and giving advice to countless people through this blog, and that’s never going to change! But, while manually migrating nearly 1,900 posts off Tumblr to the new version of this blog, it became clear that many of the same questions got answered over and over again over the years.

To prevent redundant posts going forward, we’re happy to announce a new section on this blog, accessible via the Guide link in the menu at the top of each page, Anal Sex Advice & Guide to the Anal Only Lifestyle. Broken into a number of key topics, this page attempts to answer in detail most of the frequently asked questions about anal training, myths about anal sex, hygiene and enemas, types of lubricant, butt plug and dildo recommendations, how to have anal sex for the first time, how to have anal orgasms, how to go anal only and why one might want to do so, dating and finding new partners for an anal only relationship, and more.

More topics will be added in time, and more details will be added to pages as relevant additions come up or are recommended. If you see anything missing or that you believe is incorrect or should be amended, please feel free to send a message or leave a comment on this post and let us know.

24/7 Butt Plugging

analo: Has anyone experience with 24/7 plugging?

It’s something you want to work up to over time. Wear a plug as long as it’s comfortable, then push past your limits a little bit, stopping if it really becomes painful or unpleasant. Try again the next day, and keep going from there. In time, you’ll be able to wear it all day aside from going to the bathroom or to clean. You just have to listen to your body.

Article: TV Actress Mahika Sharma urges people to ‘stop having unnatural anal sex’ on World AIDS Day

Speaking out on World AIDS Day, the Bollywood star claimed anal sex and the rape of ‘goats and dogs’ was largely to blame for the epidemic, which is believed to affect over 36 million people worldwide.

‘I have met many AIDS survivors and their story left me into tears. I really feel bad for them. They are discriminated in the society. It’s really heart breaking. I really wish people stop having unnatural sex,’ she said in a statement to International Business Times in India.

‘There is no pleasure in ass fucking. There is a need to fight against the bacteria which infects our body through unnatural sex. These days we read about goats and dogs being raped, and when this people have sex with their partners, this may lead to HIV.’

It sounds like the real problem here is a lack of proper sexual education.

Anal sex does not cause disease, though it can spread through it, as well as every other form of sexual contact. People should of course always use protection or get tested along with any new partners before engaging in any sexual contact.

Anal sex is in fact pleasurable to many people, and can be more pleasurable than any other form of sex. There’s a reason people are choosing to go anal only.

Continue Reading at Metro

Message: What Happened to My Stamina?

Asstronaut: I have currently been with my girlfriend for 6 years. At the beginning of our relationship we had one amazing anal experience(her first) she had an orgasm so intense she said her toes went numb…. The sounds she made…. On the other side of the coin, I had purchased her a tail plug which caused her a lot of pain. Long story short, after seeing that I had hurt her I didn’t ask again until last month. She is very receptive… But it’s been so long(almost 6 years)and her ass feels better than anything I’ve ever experienced in MY LIFE that I can not last any longer than it takes to get the head of my cock past her inner ring. The moment that I’m inside of her I cum….. Stamina is only an issue when we have anal. Any ideas?

I’ll start by saying that while anal certainly shouldn’t hurt and definitely doesn’t have to, encountering a painful experience once doesn’t mean you should just end it altogether. Pain means someone simply isn’t warmed up enough or prepared for what they’re doing, or the plug in question may have been an uncomfortable shape for her. Going forward, if there’s pain I’d say to stop and reassess in the moment but not give up on anal entirely.

Getting to your question, however, I suspect that it’s a combination of extreme tightness for her and your excitement about getting anal again. That excitement is understandable, and there’s not too much you can do about that, but the tightness you can work on together with some anal training and helping her better relax and open up for you. If it’s taking effort to get inside her, she could probably stand to have some more training and warmup before sex to help her relax.

If it really is just that it feels so much intensely better than anything else you’ve ever done, you may need to practice more to build up that stamina, which can mean more regular anal sex. Perhaps start with a lot of anal play for her and get her close to the edge, then switch out for yourself and finish there while getting her off at the same time, and over time work to last longer.

See also this past answer to a similar question: How to Last Longer With Anal

Perhaps some other readers could offer their suggestions as well.