I don’t know about other guys but I’m definitely fully into penis denial since I started to try it a few years ago. I went back and forth with it at first but then I started to cum from just anal a lot more easily without it and then I was done with my dick, it’s so much sexier and feels right to be anal only without any part of my penis involved. I definitely encourage giving up both your penis stimulation and it’s so hot seeing cum just ooze out of my penis know I didn’t touch it at all. My gf loves it too she is also anal only and a vaginal virgin and we only use dildos since I don’t use my penis

Btw can you encourage more men to be anal only and maybe start a month just for them like dick denial December and can you give my gf some encouragement and reasons why she should stay anal only cuz she has said she wanted to give me her vaginal virginity

While it’s less common than the more traditional form of anal only where the man’s primary sex organ is his penis and the woman’s primary sex organ is her anus, there certainly are others who enjoy the same dynamic as you, where both partners are receptively anal only. If it works well for you, then that’s great! Anyone can enjoy receiving anal and anyone can come to prefer it, so it makes sense that being anal only is something that can appeal to women and men both in the same sort of way. There’s probably a bit more of a stigma about the idea of a man doing that still, unfortunately, so I suspect less people talk about it than practice or fantasize about it.

As for your girlfriend, you should tell her how much you love her being anal only with you and think it’s really sexy and wonderful that she’s a vaginal virgin. Tell her how you value the two of you staying anal only. A lot of anal only women regularly express how they wish that they had kept their pussy virgin and stayed anal only from the start rather than wasting time on their vagina in the hopes that it would be something worth doing. I understand the drive some people have to try everything and find out what they like best, but the reality is for most people, anal is so much better than anything else and by starting with anal, vaginal will usually end up just being a disappointment and something to regret. Committing to anal only is something that can always change in the future, but she can’t go back to being a vaginal virgin.

chptrh1307: Should I use condom for the first time having anal sex? Or I can just ask her to clean her anus carefully, and are there any risk not using condom?

If you are a monogomous couple, you don’t really need to use a condom during anal. She can clean out with a light douching with water before, but many find that’s just not even that necessary, the rectum naturally stays pretty clean most of the time. A deep enema isn’t necessary, and often causes things to get even messier unless you really commit a lot of time to it, but a small amount of warm water a few times in a row will usually do the trick.

If you’re hooking up with multiple partners or a new partner for the first time and you haven’t both been tested, a condom is always a good idea.

greygoosecranberryjuice: I have a fetish for everything ass/anal. Is it gross for me to crave eating foods from my wife’s ass? An example would be strawberries because they are quite easy to insert. I’m the only person within my circle who is openly attracted to butts, so my friends find my fetish gross and disgusting. I’m looking for reassurance that I’m not just weird and sick in the head.

Not at all. Rimming, ass to mouth and related things are all rapidly growing in popularity, even well outside of the anal only lifestyle. They’re fairly common acts for a lot of people, and are even showcased in popular culture more in recent years. A lot of people are still fairly sheltered from anal pleasure and fun, however, and hold on to various stigmas, unfortunately.

Keep enjoying what you enjoy, don’t worry about what others think. Continue sharing your love for anal and related things positively with friends, too—chances are some of them will start to get more interested with time.

anal-princess-plugged: I’ve been trying to get into regular anal sex and wearing a plug as often as possible since last November. Despite all the training I’ve done, I still get digestive issues (constipation, gas, bloating) and have to stop anal play for a while before I can comfortably get back into it. I really want to be able to always do anal and wear my plug most of the time. Any advice for helping my body adjust to regular anal sex?

I’d say to keep an eye out on whether there are any dietary factors that may effect your digestion in those ways more than others and adjust as needed to try and optimize things. A generally balanced diet with a healthy amount of dietary fiber is a good baseline for anal usually, though some may need to adjust further if they have any particular food intolerances, etc. that can cause increased gas or bloating.

You may also want to try some different types of lube—some lube can cause different reactions in different people, and if you’ve primarily stuck to a particular type, trying a few different ones might be a good idea.

Beyond that, I’d suggest not starting with the goal of plugging as often as possible right away. Instead, try it for a smaller period of time each day—maybe an hour a day for the first week?—and if you’re comfortable with that, bump it up a bit, and keep going from there. If you find a point where it starts getting uncomfortable to maintain, try sticking with a shorter length of time per day for a bit longer or split it up across the day a bit more before trying again. Your body needs time to adjust to the new change and suddenly being plugged all the time can cause things to get a bit out of whack and cause discomfort, etc.

Hope that helps a little bit or gives you some ideas to try and that with time you’ll be able to plug and have anal sex regularly!

Anonymous: Whats the best technique to pleasure a woman when doing anal? Hard and fast, or slow and steady? Does it feel best for her deep or just around the entrance? Penis angled towards vagina or away? Clitoris stimulation or not? I’d love to progress to anal only with my partner and the best way would be to make it the best experience possible for her.

Everybody is different and prefers different things. All of those things can feel great to different people. There are different pleasure points and hitting them can be easier for some than others or feel better in some cases for some and not others. So, there’s no way to really answer this other than to say that you should communicate with your partner and have her tell you want does and doesn’t feel good and adjust for her from there.

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alwaysanalblog: True, everyone is different. But as a general rule, find a comfortable position for her and stick with it. A relaxed body usually means a relaxed anus too. Any position which causes strain or continual effort to maintain should be avoided.

Few women prefer a hard pounding or rough insertions, though there are exceptions. In my experience what is most likely to lead to an anal orgasm is a slow build up of waves of pressure. Most women seem to enjoy deep penetration as they approach orgasm, as long as they are used to it and without any sudden hard thrusts.

ilikeitintheass: Over 11k followers and counting. I’m always surprised when I see that number growing. Thank you. I know I don’t post as much (in terms of updates). As you can all imagine, I have a busy life now that I’m in a relationship. So since I have the time, I wanted to tell you all what I’ve been up to lately and also where I am currently in terms of being Anal Only.

The big news, is that my boyfriend proposed and I said yes. We are planning on getting married soon. This arrangement of course works with our partner who is living with us. I’ve known him for most of my life and this is the perfect step for us at this time. We both envision our lives together, through it all. We will continue to have an open relationship, and we will continue to live with our partner as long as she will have us. We have so much love for each other but we also understand the complexity of this kind of relationship.

The other news is that I am now officially Anal Only. I have been for exactly one month, but I didn’t want to jinx it. So now you all know. The rules (our rules), is for me to experience anal only, without clit stimulation (but this is not a hard rule, like it was the last time). If it does happen, then it happened. This is mainly because my girl loves my clit and loves to go down on me and sometimes she’s just in the mood to do that. By going Anal only, I do take something away from her, and this is the best compromise. My boyfriend/fiance, is happy to go anal only completely with me, so in the least, there won’t be any clit stimulation with him. Another obvious rule is that there won’t be any vaginal stimulation or penetration meanwhile. This honestly works perfectly as I can get off the pill, it’s not my favorite thing in the world.

I think it’s the perfect time, since August is known for being ANAL ONLY AUGUST, so I will try to post about my anal journey and experiments and orgasms. I will also try to have anal stimulation everyday, whether I have an orgasm or I don’t. Even if it’s just wearing a plug to a meeting or something like that.

So stay tuned. Thank you once again for your interest. My ask box is open I’m sure you’ll have questions for me about everything I wrote. 🙂

Anonymous: I want to try anal, it’s been a fantasy of mine for awhile…but I don’t have anyone I could ask. Have any advice for training myself?

There was a recent post on this very subject, so I’d suggest you check this out first as well as looking at the Anal Advice category! If you have any other specific followup questions, please feel free to ask!

Anonymous: It’s crazy how training on a daily basis makes a huge difference and help you progress, I moved up two sizes in the span of four days( the bigger one is still kinda uncomfortable but the good kind of uncomfortable). Moral of the story : train daily for the best and quickest results

Absolutely! If you’re struggling with anal, making anal play/training into a daily routine—especially just making it into a normal part of your masturbation routine (or replacing your masturbation routine with anal play if working towards being fully anal only)—is one of the best things you can do, and it’s amazing how quickly you can get into it and master anal once you’ve done so.

Anonymous: Since the last 4-5 years since I’ve been following anal only blogs it’s become clear to me that I’m attracted to ass and not pussy. I worship my wife’s ass but we only get to have anal sex about once a month which drives me crazy. I don’t think she understands and it’s not easy getting aroused for vaginal sex. I feel like I’m letting her down but at the same time feel like anal is something I must do. How do I reconcile these conflicting needs? It seems impossible we can both be happy.

Preferring anal and being more attracted to a woman’s ass than her pussy is not a particularly uncommon thing for men, especially those in the anal only community. But it’s a lot more common than many let on to, especially because of the continued stigmas of anal or of some people’s inability to understand a heterosexual man not being interested in pussy.

Why do you only get to have anal once a month? Is it not something she enjoys? What have you tried together in terms of anal? What are her issues with it? Pain? Discomfort? Lack of pleasure? Some other issue or concern? Start there, and figure out why she doesn’t want to do it more often. There are solutions to most of those problems if she’s open to trying gradually and with a focus on her pleasure and enjoyment. Communicate with her, and share how important anal is to you and how sexy her ass is for you, and how you want to be able to share that together, and then ask and listen to her if she has concerns about doing more anal and try to work together to find something mutually beneficial.

Most people don’t end up anal only immediately unless it’s something they themselves are also very into. Anal only relationships often evolve over time to that point, so don’t think that you have to just suddenly be anal only, it can also be a goal to work towards through a gradual shift towards more anal.

Anonymous: hi! my bf has asked me to eat him out, and i’m interested in it, but scared of what it may smell and taste like :”) any tips? how should i go about this?

That’s great that he wants you to try this and that you’re willing to do it!

Take a shower together first and wash each other with soap so you know he’s clean there. Then, just go for it. Licking a clean ass just tastes like skin, pretty much, with a bit of a musky, salty, slightly bitter smell/taste at times. It can be very nice. I’m sure you’ll both enjoy it a lot, especially once you see how much pleasure it can give him.

If you wanted to, you could try it on yourself first to know what to expect—after a shower of your own, rub your asshole with your fingers for a bit and then suck on them. You might even discover in the process that ass to mouth with his cock from your ass is something you’d like to start doing regularly!