Message: I Hate Your Speech Against Clit
lonely-cute-boy: i allways liked anal sex,is so diferent and forbidden, dirty and wrong… Now i absolutely hate vaginal penetration, specially because of pregnancy consequences. But i have a severe problem with this AO community that dont let me join the thing: The strong misogynistic speech within the community. Some of you says horrible things against the female genitalia, and scorn the core of womanhood. I like to consider myself AO but i also love oral (cunnilingus). And i hate yours speech against clit.
I’ve gotten messages from you for years across my various blogs, usually containing extremely hateful language and death threats/encouragements to kill myself. So I don’t owe you any response at all and the only reason I’m even acknowledging this message is because it’s the first in all that time that warrants an actual response that might be beneficial to the other followers of this blog.
Understand that not all blogs are alike and while there are certainly those with a misogyny kink, none of those are mine nor are they endorsed by me. And while I do encourage people interested in the anal only lifestyle to also experiment with clitoral denial and see what the benefits of it are for themselves and then decide whether it’s something they want, it’s certainly not a requirement for the anal only lifestyle, and I would say that the majority of anal only women enjoy a combination of clitoral stimulation and anal penetration. There’s nothing wrong with that if it works for them.
My encouragement to go without clitoral stimulation is due to certain benefits for some women who can suffer from a sort of depression and serious loss of arousal post-clitoral orgasm, as well as the fact that focusing on just anal stimulation without any vaginal or clitoral stimulation, it is often possible to unlock increased forms of anal pleasure and learn how to orgasm from anal alone. So the intent and focus here is in developing increased pleasure, not denying pleasure.
If you enjoy performing cunnilingus and clitoral stimulation on women alongside anal sex while excluding any vaginal penetration, that’s still consistent with the anal only lifestyle, so long as your partner wants the same. The fundamental “rule” of anal only is that you don’t engage in vaginal intercourse. Everything else is up to your own personal interpretation and what works for you and your partner.
You’re accusing me and others of saying horrible things about the female genitalia, but you yourself opened this message by saying that you hate vaginal penetration. Now, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that—I’m not at all a fan either—but it’s a bit hypocritical to say that and then accuse others of being hateful by saying they don’t like clitoral stimulation. Women aren’t just their vaginas or their clits, they’re people. And people are complex. Some might agree that their vagina or clit is their sexual/pleasure center, but others are going to much prefer their ass getting all the attention. You have your preferences. Recognize that other people, men and women both, have their own preferences as well and they may differ from your own, and that conflict doesn’t make the other people evil or hateful, nor does it justify your own hateful reaction.
The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response.
tenderlyfoulphantom: Yes, it is sad and a little bewildering that so much AO (and just A) stuff is permeated by miscogyny. It should be about pleasure, not pleasure through inflicting pain. There can be an air of the forbidden without expressions of hatred and pain.
To which the following response was given:
I’d argue that the majority of AO content online is not that way at all, but there are some blogs that focus on that aspect of things. But understand too that it’s a kink and fantasy for the vast majority who post such content. There are those of all genders who appreciate it for that kink. Just because you and I aren’t into that aspect of AO doesn’t make it wrong so long as it’s consensual. We can just choose to not follow those blogs.
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