Message: I Want To Be An Anal Slut
bbcsnatcha: i want to be an anal slut. i’m really getting into dp too. so far i’ve had a butt plug in (the hooks used to keep it in place are uncomfortable) i want to give my ass to my big daddy but i don’t know where to start 25/f/tx
Is your goal to become anal only, or just to incorporate anal sex into your life? As an advocate of the anal only lifestyle, I’m obviously going to strongly encourage you to pursue a transition to anal only, but if anal sex is still something you’re working towards at this point, the first stage should generally be learning to enjoy it and make it a regular part of your sex life before working to replace vaginal fully with anal, unless you’re interested in and committed to making a rapid transition.
Keep using your butt plug regularly. Perhaps start with a process of only rubbing your clit or orgasming when masturbating if you have your plug or another toy in your ass at the same time, to further develop an association between anal stimulation and pleasure, arousal, and orgasms.
Start using dildos to masturbate anally. Start on the smaller end, with something you’re easily comfortable with, and work up gradually from there until reaching around the size of your partner. Take as little or as much time as you need to get to where you can comfortably fit it. If something starts to hurt in the process, take things slow, back off if necessary, spend a little more time with something smaller, then try again. With gradual easing up in size, you shouldn’t experience pain. It might feel a little unusual or briefly uncomfortable until you adjust to it, but it shouldn’t be painful. As you start out, combining clit stimulation with anal penetration can help you learn to relax as well as transforming what might feel a little uncomfortable into pleasure instead. Long term, I encourage people to experiment with transitioning to pure anal pleasure without clitoral stimulation, but your clit can be helpful when first training.
Once you feel confident you’re ready to try it with your partner, go through a warmup either yourself beforehand or together, working up in the sizes to relax and prepare your ass, then lube him up and gently ease him in. Take the control for the initial penetration and slowly slide your ass onto his cock, stopping or slowing or backing off as necessary. When he’s fully penetrated, just stay there a moment while you adjust to his size, and then slowly start moving. Once you’re comfortable with a pace, let him take over more. If it gets to be too much, make sure he knows to slow or stop when you say. You likely won’t need to stop altogether, but a brief pause with him still inside you but just resting a moment, or pulling out partway, can give you the adjustment you need before resuming.
It’s a learning process the first few times, and it can take some back and forth and starting and stopping, but if you stick with it you’ll get there, and you’ll love it.
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