Month: January 2018


Masturbation when Anal Only

Anonymous: Hi. I’m a girl and I love anal. Your blog has made me want to do it more and more. You’ve made my boyfriend very happy. I wanted to ask you about how you assturbate when you’re anal only. Am sure it’s different every time, so, maybe the next time you masturbate, you can let us in on what you do. In as much details as possible? Thank you

ilikeitintheass: Happy to oblige. Congrats on having more anal in your life.

My assturbation today was pretty epic. So you get a peak into the kind of session I don’t experience often. I started with my biggest anal plug. Without any preparation, just some lube covering the plug, I stared to push it into my ass. One push, second push, and it was in by the third. It’s usually not that easy. I wore it for about an hour browsing and then I pulled the plug out and finger fucked my ass. Starting with two, ending with all five in to the knuckles. Again, my ass doesn’t usually open up this much this fast. It’s an incredible experience. Since I can’t really cum when I finger fuck my ass, I grabbed my dildo and fucked myself with it until I came. The whole thing took about 2 hours. No squirting this time, hopefully tonight though

I think am well prepped for getting my ass drilled tonight

Toughest Part of Being Anal Only

mybelovedwhore: What’s been the toughest part of AO for over half a year, now?

ilikeitintheass: Hooking up with women is difficult. Most of the ones I meet want nothing to do with anal. If I really want to fuck her, I end up fucking her and getting nothing out of it. Which is what I end up doing. Before I started clit denial, at least I got it sucked and touched. But I don’t have that option anymore.

With guys, even if they fuck your ass, they want to fuck your pussy. Weeding those out is a hassle. They’ll want to tell me am missing out and they’ll try to change my mind. Which is annoying.

Message: Life in an Anti-Anal Country

Anonymous: Hello! I love your blog, so much hotness! I’m a guy and I enjoy playing with my and girls anal more then anything (curiosity changed to passion) but I live in the shittiest country in the world. People here are weird 99% of them are only into vanilla sex and missionaries -.- Even some guys here are disgusted with a blowjob…c’mon, blowjob?! And if I mention anal to any girl, even kinky ones, just a little, they freak out! HELL NO! I’m desperate! XD Do you have some embracing words for me?

Don’t give up hope—even in sexually repressed environments, there are others who will share similar sexual preferences and desires as you. They might be quiet about them and not open up easily for fear of being judged by others, but I guarantee they’re out there.

In that environment, it’s also not uncommon for people to be automatically resistant to the idea of something like anal without ever having tried it. Sometimes, you just need to very gently test the waters with a partner by lightly touching her asshole while playing with or eating her pussy, or giving her asshole a lick during cunnilingus. Nothing invasive, and stopping if she asks you to, but some very light, gentle exploration into that area in a way likely to be pleasurable. If she’s favorable to such things, start making them a regular part of your routine together, and try putting a bit more focus on her asshole—more time spent licking her ass, more gentle rubbing around the entrance. From there, ask her if you can slide a lubricated finger inside and if yes, start fingering her ass while you make her cum, getting her to start associating anal penetration with pleasure. From there, a normal progression should be quite effective, once you’ve gotten past the idea that she won’t like it by showing her gently, gradually (and always respectful of her not wanting to continue or to try at any stage) that it’s in fact very pleasurable for her when done right.

If she doesn’t respond favorably to any of that, or expresses clear interest in not pursuing anything anal, decide how important anal is for you. If it’s something very important, then end things and try again with a new partner. There’s nothing wrong with selecting partners based on sexual compatibility—everyone has different priorities, and the purpose of dating is to find compatible partners across a variety of categories, including sexual compatibility.

Message: I’m Done With My Clit

Anonymous: I just wanted to say I decided to stop using my clit because of your blog and you’re right: it’s. so. fucking. good. Ladies, if you haven’t tried it, you need to! It’s hard at first because it’s so ingrained for us to touch ourselves there, but really try and just play with your butt instead when you’re horny and make yourself get really turned on and keep playing with your ass until you can cum from it. It’s not as easy but it feels so. much. better. and I can’t stop now. I’m done with my clit.

Well said! It can be hard for some people to understand before they try it, and they might think it’s about the denial of pleasure or some sort of control scenario in a D/s relationship—and it can be, if that’s what you’re into, but it doesn’t have to be—fundamentally it’s about the fact that clitoral stimulation is just… inferior to anal, even if it is, as you say, often easier to orgasm that way. The after-effects from clitoral orgasms are hardly the worth the pleasure that can come from it, and the pleasure of anal orgasms can be more intense without the loss of arousal after, plus you can just keep going and having more and more of them.

Clitoral stimulation is a habit. Freeing yourself from it opens you up to far more variety of stimulation—anal, nipple, and more—and much deeper, more meaningful types of pleasure. It’s no surprise you’ve lost interest in your clit now that you have something so much better.

Thanks for sharing.

Message: Anal Only New Year’s Resolution

Anonymous: My bf and I made anal only our new years resolution and since Jan 1 (actually we started a few days before so we’d already be doing it when the new year came) he hasn’t fucked my pussy and I haven’t played with it or my clit. I’m so horny all the time now! It’s frustrating but I love it and I play with my asshole when I feel like touching myself. It makes me feel really sexy all the time to know I’m anal only and my pussy is just a decoration. Thank you for the inspiration!

You’re welcome! Thank you for sharing.

It sounds like you’re on the right track and have found something you both really love. If you can get past the increased arousal and manage it effectively without giving in to your old ways, you’re in for a far more pleasurable life in general, and you get addicted to that increased state of arousal and want to stay that way, which reduces any urge you may have to use your clit to cum and ruin how good you feel all the time.

You didn’t say if you can cum from anal. Anal orgasms are often far more intense than clitoral orgasms (though everyone is different), and they also tend to have the effect of not throwing your arousal levels out of whack and making you feel asexual/turned off for a while afterwards as is usually the case with clit orgasms. Instead, you can usually keep going and have multiple anal orgasms until physical exhaustion becomes the limiting factor instead of just no longer having any desire to continue. So if you can’t already have them, you might want to explore pure anal only orgasms as a goal.

Stick with it, and you just won’t have any interest in going back to vaginal sex. Why would you want to, when it can’t come close to anal only?

Anal is Pleasure Without Regret

enberash: The hornier I get, the more I want to touch my ass. The more I touch my ass, the hornier I get. I love this cycle~ I hope someday all my thoughts are about my ass. I wish I hadn’t been taught to use lesser things. Anal is pleasure without regret. My ass wants me to be happy, it wants me to feel good. I wish so much I could have only my ass so I wouldn’t even have to worry about lesser things at all, just my real pleasure center. But I have to stay strong. I’m only human, and I’ve learned that even knowing that anal is better and that nothing compares to it hasn’t stopped me from messing up in a moment of weakness. But I know what is right, what feels good. And it’s anal all the way. It’s the only thing that makes sense. Really, nothing else makes sense anymore. I can’t look at vaginal porn anymore because I have no interest in it. I want things in my ass, so I want to see things in asses. I get turned on by buttholes. Everything makes so much more sense now. My ass is the only sex organ I need. I’ve always watched anal porn, it just took me forever to accept the truth. Anal is better. Anal is pleasure. Everything else is a waste of time. I hope I can be anal only all next year, but realistically I know I’ll mess up again. But I know the truth, and that can’t be taken away from me. Ass is all that matters. Being fucked in the ass is the only way sex is supposed to happen. And I hope so much that the world realizes the truth as well at some point. I wish I could be free from all the conditioning and reflexes and habits… the urges to do the wrong thing make me feel horrible. I shouldn’t want to do things that feel worse and make me feel horrible. My favorite thing about my ass is how it feels when I finger myself. When it feels really good, it feels so soft and warm. I wish so much the world was just giving it in the ass or taking it in the ass. I hate having to feel wrong for liking it. It should be default. It’s so much better. I wish I could get my ass fucked every day. But the reality is I live in a horrible area and I probably won’t find that. But I can at least try to explore what feels good to me. I owe myself at least that, I suppose. I wrote this kinda drunk, I probably shouldn’t post it, but it’s the truth.. I just wish everyone knew how good anal feels. It’s not even a contest. Comparing anal to anything else isn’t even a comparison. Anal makes me feel happy, fulfilled, calm.. the other makes me feel the opposite. So what’s the point of that?

NYT: Birth Control Pills Still Linked to Breast Cancer, Study Finds

From a recent New York Times article, hormonal birth control continues to be linked to an increased risk of breast cancer.

The study, which followed 1.8 million Danish women for more than a decade, upends widely held assumptions about modern contraceptives for younger generations of women. Many women have believed that newer hormonal contraceptives are much safer than those taken by their mothers or grandmothers, which had higher doses of estrogen.

An interviewed individual suggests alternatives for some women.

Because risk increases with age, Dr. Weiss suggested that older women may want to consider switching to a hormone-free birth control method, like a diaphragm, an I.U.D. that does not release hormones, or condoms. “It’s not like you don’t have a choice,” she said. “Why not pursue another option?”

Why not, instead, choose the most natural form of birth control: anal sex. The anal only lifestyle is a fantastic form of birth control on top of its many other benefits.

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Desensitization of Clitoral Orgasms

madmax76d: From everything that I am readying the orgasm you experienced the other night sent you to the moon and you haven’t come back yet. You were saying that clitoral orgasms desensitize you. Does that mean that they wipe you out? Or that your orgasm tends make you not want to be touched down there? Or both?

ilikeitintheass: The orgasm I had the other night, was like nothing I’ve had before. After, I was all over the place and wanted to be left alone but held at the same time. I’m only starting to feel like me again today. I’m even wearing my butt plug and it feels good. I’m no longer sensitive and feeling horny again.

Clit orgasms have always wiped me out. They are amazing but the after effects are not desirable. A lot of women experience this so I don’t know why there’s isn’t more information out there on this or why more women aren’t talking about it! It’s a mixture of feeling too sensitive to be touched there again, and the fear of getting touched again, feeling sensitive but having more orgasms. Yes the orgasm will feel good, but having multiple clit orgasms will most definitely make me depressed after. I can’t put into words why or what that feeling is. It just is.

On top of that, after having a clit orgasm (whether it’s combined with vag or ass stimulation or not -the effect is the same), my clit becomes sensitive or it starts to hurt if it’s touched. Eventually this turns into a desensitized feeling (sexually). I’ve never been asexual but that’s what I mean when I say I feel desensitized. All sexual desire is just gone..

This is partly why I started anal only 7 months ago, and why I attempted clit denial 8 weeks ago.

I’m pleased to say that I am back on clit denial and I remain to be anal only.

FWB got a good punishment for touching my clit when I specifically asked him not to.

Clit Orgasms and Loss of Arousal

Anonymous: That’s been my experience as well! Clit orgasms can feel amazing sometimes but I don’t like how I feel after, it makes me depressed and I don’t want to have sex or play with myself for a while. A few years ago I decided I liked being horny and desperate for something in my ass all the time and only having anal orgasms more than I liked clit orgasms, so I’ve pretty much stopped using my clit entirely and I honestly can say I’m so much happier this way. It gets easier to ignore after a while.

ilikeitintheass: I have to agree with you. Clit orgasms make me not horny anymore. Like you, I don’t like that feeling. Sometimes it lasts a few days, other times it could last for weeks even months. This is something I’ve learned about my body.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts about it with me. Thankfully am feeling horny again and my clit will continue to remain untouched for the time being.