Month: March 2017


Message: Trained For Months, But Anal Still Hurts

Anonymous: Hello, hoping for some advice in regards to solving the discomfort I experience during anal sex. I did proper anal training for 10+ months, and (I think) we use enough lube, but after my husband enters me and begins to move back and forth I feel discomfort/pain. It’s fine as long as he just stays in and kind of “rocks” back and forth without sliding back and forth but it seems that the more in and out motion irritate me. What could it be? Thanks in advance!

Are you warming up and relaxing with fingers or toys (like a butt plug) before having sex? If you aren’t warmed up enough, it could cause discomfort or pain when you start having sex. Even just wearing a butt plug for 15 to 20 minutes before sex can really help.

It’s also possible the lube you’re using could cause irritation and make sex feel more uncomfortable than pleasurable. If it works for solo play or with toys, however, that may not be the case.

You can try practicing for anal sex more with dildos and see if you can build up at your own pace to the point where an in and out motion doesn’t bother you.

Used to be Ashamed of Being an Anal Whore

horndogplace: I used to be so ashamed of the way I was, but I think I need to let you all know I’m an anal whore. I rarely play with my pussy and would love for someone to stick their big fat cock up my tight ass as I scream for more. Being this into anal makes me feel like such a dirty slut, but honestly I’m really starting to like it. Like yes, I do have a greedy ass who loves to get abused, but that’s just what an anal whore needs. It makes my pussy so excited when I completely ignore her and just roughly fuck my ass. I can’t fuck her with how tight she is anyways so why not make her suffer even more? I want to be able to have a butt plug in me at all time and constantly be filled to the rim with cum in my ass. Like plug your cum in me so my needy little ass can feel a bit more warm and full and remind her how slutty she is for liking it. I honestly cannot imagine why someone girls don’t even try sticking anything up their ass. Like sure, it tears your insides apart but all that matters is giving my ass what it wants. Also as the true desperate whore I wanna squirt from being fucked in the ass and forced to clean it up like the pathetic whore I am. Filming my ass is so much fun as well since I get to watch how beaten and swollen she looks after I roughly fuck her. It makes my clitty throb knowing how much cock I cold take up my ass and knowing that my pussy isn’t getting any of the attention. It’s making my pussy so wet knowing how I’m exclaiming how much I want to be anally abused like the true dirty whore I am. Ugh a cock would be so much more filling that my tiny fingers. Would someone be willing to feed their cock to my hungry ass?

Message: Perfect Position for Anal Only?

Anonymous: Hi, my wife and I have been going anal only now for at least a yr., but I am still searching for the perfect position for her and me. She says that I go too deep with doggie and we’ve done the side many times, any suggestions, thx.

Congratulations on being anal only for a year or more, first of all! That’s excellent.

The ideal position for anal is very much a matter of personal preference, so I would suggest just trying everything and seeing what works best for the two of you. Missionary and cowgirl/reverse cowgirl are good options to try.

You could also experiment with some depth training for her to enjoy doggy more, either with slower sex where you ease it in to full depth as she relaxes around you and learns how to open up internally to make it easier to take you deeper, or with a flexible dildo that can bend around easily inside her and help her relax.

Message: Girlfriend Sore After Fingering Her Ass

Anonymous: My girlfriend and I (I’m a guy) have started to explore anal sex and she loves it when I finger her ass (she can only take one finger), but the next day after every single time I do so, she says that it hurts. I told her that since I only finger her about once a week only, it’s not enough for her to get used to it and that she should do it on her own, but she shies away from the idea. How do I get her to start practicing on her own? Cause I really want to have anal sex with her eventually.

A finger shouldn’t usually cause her pain after. Are your nails long or rough? A small abrasion could cause some stinging pain after. You might try a more passive toy like a small butt plug, gradually working up in frequency. She might be more open to wearing a plug on her own as well, as not everyone is into fingering their own ass.

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A suggestion for the anon whose girlfriend hurts the day after being fingered. I experienced that same thing a few times. The problem was that my boyfriend fingered me with very quick thrusts and not enough lube (he had seen it like that in porn).

Message: Butt Plugs With Wide Neck

Anonymous: Do you have any recommendations for butt plugs that have a wide neck? I don’t feel like any of my plugs stretch me out as much as they could. I did find some but they come in a set and are expensive when I would only use the bigger ones.

How wide is wide? The Tantus A-Bomb has a fairly wide neck. Tantus Tex is even wider, but the main plug is huge at 3″ diameter. Various glass plugs places like Amazon are available with wider necks.

Message: I Want to Stay His Virgin Anal Only Girl

Anonymous: Hi! I’m a vaginal virgin and I’ve been anal only with my boyfriend for two years now. I really love it and I want to stay a virgin and just be his anal only girl, but he’s been talking about wanting to fuck my pussy. I really don’t want to lose my virginity and would rather stay pure anal only. What should I do?

My answer is, by nature of my preferences and the topic of this blog, going to be fairly biased in favor of staying anal only and remaining a vaginal virgin for as long as you want to. Ultimately, you have all the say in that regard. If you don’t want to have vaginal sex, you don’t have to, and your boyfriend should respect your wishes without pushing you.

Some may say that you should try all things before making an informed decision which you do and don’t want to do. There is some merit in this opinion, but there is a lot of appeal for those who start pure anal only to just keep on staying that way, especially when they love it so much and are turned on by the idea of keeping their pussy fully unused but being very skilled and experienced at anal. I certainly love that idea, myself, and I see nothing wrong with it so long as it’s what you want and you’re happy.

Why not explain the appeal of staying a pure anal only vaginal virgin to your boyfriend, tell him that you don’t want to give that up, and see if there’s anything else the two of you can do together that he might want to try instead of vaginal?

Message: Hated Anal, Now I’m Enjoying It

Anonymous: I hated it when my Daddy forced me into a really rough anal sex session but now I’m enjoying it and I’ve gotten a few orgasms. Anal is the best !

Glad to hear you’re enjoying it. I’m sorry that you were forced into it, however. No one should force anal on anyone against their will, or push them to go too far too fast before they’re comfortable and ready.

Message: How to Go Anal Only With Wife?

Anonymous: How do I get my wife to go anal only? She seem to enjoy anal in general, sometimes she asks for it herself. Now we are like 40% – vag only, 55% – vag + anal, 5% just anal. I understand I need to make anal enjoyable as much as possible. Some tips to share? How and when do I approach sucn an extreme idea? I don’t want to scare her off.

I would suggest just gradually working there by increasing the amount of anal you do over time, rather than pushing for it all at once. Complement her ass, talk about how much you love it and having anal sex with her, make her cum during anal as often as you can, be very positive about it and make her enjoy it and feel confident about anal, and just keep doing it often. Over a several month period see if you can shift things towards more frequent anal, and if that is successful and everyone is happy, shift it towards anal some more, repeating as necessary.