Message: Wife Put Off By the Idea of Anal
Anonymous: I love ass and the thought of doing anal. However, my wife is kind of put off by the idea of it. Any suggestions?
Why is she put off by it? Fear of uncleanliness? Concern about pain or discomfort? Social or religious stigma surrounding anal? Talk to her and figure out what exactly her resistance to it is. Good communication is key, both in general to gain the mutual trust to try something new sexually, and for anal sex to be enjoyable. If you try to figure it out together and make it clear that it’s not just something you want for yourself but something you’d like to learn to enjoy together at a pace she’s comfortable with, maybe she’ll be more amenable to trying.