Month: September 2015


Message: Friends Won’t Believe I Can Orgasm From Anal

Anonymous: So I have this crazy theory about why most people still seem to be against anal sex. I am able to have anal orgasms (no clitoral stimulation involved at all). Problem is that I can’t prove it. Sure my husband feels that there’s something going on inside my body. But I’ve been talking to some friends about it and they just won’t believe me. And I think that’s because religion STILL makes us think that women CAN’T like sex unless it’s for making babies. I think this is also a feminist issue.

I suspect that’s one of many factors at play.

There’s also a lot of misinformation involved, and a lot of people who think they know everything about anal but have never actually tried it themselves, or have only tried it incorrectly one time and never again. Statements that anal hurts or is only done to please men are very common, as are claims that damage and injury will arise from it.

Then there’s still the taboo aspect, which is fading for many but is still there for others, and which both prevents some who are interested in trying anal from expressing that interest, as well as preventing many who enjoy anal from saying so publicly.

It’s actually not too uncommon for women to be able to orgasm anally with no clitoral stimulation, and as more people continue to try anal (with the necessary preparation required to make it an enjoyable experience) I’m sure more will discover that they have that ability. Education and positive experience are probably the main things that are going to help get rid of the misconceptions surrounding anal.

Arousal Doesn’t Go Away With Anal Only Orgasms

Anonymous: It honestly makes sense. An absence of clitoral orgasms increases your level of arousal, which tends to increase sensitivity and amplify pleasure in sexual organs, so anal sex will feel even better and more right than it does normally. Anal sex and even anal orgasms can be incredibly pleasurable on their own but aren’t necessarily as satisfying in terms of reduction of arousal, which helps to maintain the higher levels of anal pleasure with less time between to become that aroused again.

dumbandpretty: What you’re saying is something I’ve only just come to realize. Without clitoral orgasms, at least for me, the level of arousal DOES. NOT. GO. AWAY. It doesn’t even diminish in the slightest.

Message: Anal Lube & Positions

glamdollxMy boyfriend likes anal and I don’t object but I’ve asked him to get lube and he rather use spit. Is there any positions that are more comfortable than others?

Definitely get some real lube. Saliva can work for some people, but it doesn’t lubricate as well as real lube long-term.

Because everyone’s a bit different, different people are going to prefer different positions. I’d suggest just giving a variety all a try and see which ones both of you like best. Cowgirl seems to work well quite often because squatting types of positions tend to straighten the rectum a bit and avoid prodding into anything that might feel uncomfortable, but it’s far from the only position that works.

The original version of this post on Tumblr received the following response:

pappymcdaddy: I love intellectual posts about seeming brutal and mindless acts. It just shows there is so much more to this all that just what the vanilla public chooses to see.

To which the following rebuttal was given:

What’s brutal or mindless about anal sex? Brutal suggests it’s painful or destructive, which it shouldn’t be if done correctly. And it’s far from mindless—there’s a lot more preparation and training that goes into having a consistently pleasurable anal experience.

How To Edge Anally?

Anonymous: Are there any specific ways to edge anally? I predominately edge clitorally and vaginally but I want to try this way as well. I’m not using dildos yet, just my fingers. Thank you in advance. You’re blog has helped me and people I know a lot.

female-orgasm-denial: Yes, but only if you’re able to climax from anal in the first place. And that’s the tricky part.

From my experience the anal orgasm in a woman is THE MOST psychologically controlled. Unlike in men who have the prostate, you have much less going on it terms of specific bunches of nerve endings up there. However it can feel great if done well and with lots of lube, and the trick really is to get yourself close with clitoral and vaginal stimulation and then slowly switch over to anal only and see if you can keep the arousal level up.

This is often going to require a lot of mental work, so it may help to fantasise about different anal scenarios. Being turned into an anal only denial slut, for example. or being used anally by a dom so that the pleasure is all his.

If you’ve never had an anal orgasm I give you permission to go over the first time as, it’s pretty awesome to even think ‘I can cum from fucking my ass! (This will get you extra responses if added to any online dating profile, just, FYI)

So the challenge of doing it without toys is that fingers get tired pretty fast doing this. Your best bet is a smooth hairbrush handle or a little butt plug. LOTS of lube and you’re good to go. Start slow, build up and let your anal fantasies run wild, that’s the real trick. Search ‘anal only’ on tumblr for inspiration if you need it!

I think it varies from person to person a bit, but there certainly is a physiological aspect to anal orgasm for at least some women, either through g-spot stimulation through the rectal/vaginal walls or through stimulation of the internal components of the clitoris, which in some women seem to be more easily stimulated anally than vaginally and such stimulation can lead to orgasm through just anal stimulation.

There is undoubtedly a psychological aspect for many as well, however, and that’s always a good way to help reach orgasm when it may be otherwise difficult.

How To Get Your Partner To Feel Their Asshole Is Sexy

silvercrow503: What advice would you give to someone who is trying to get their partner to feel their asshole is sexy and more interested in the whole anal experience. Sorry if it seems like I’m spamming you. Thank you and have a nice day.

submrs: I don’t feel like you’re spamming at all, no worries haha! 🙂 My number one piece of advice (after saying use lots and lots of lube for every encounter) is help your partner begin to associate pleasure with anal penetration. One rule Sir made early in my training was that I could not cum unless something was in my asshole. It could be a plug or a finger, any toy, whatever – but whether masturbating or with Sir, under no circumstances did I cum without something in my ass. In no time at all, I was craving him to use my asshole. Combined with my plug training, I was begging for his full cock in no time. Hope that helps! 😉

Clitoral Abstinance the Secret to Anal Only Success

Anonymous: hows the anal only going? hows blake liking it? any details you can share? Are you ignoring your clit also? just ass fucking I hope….

dumbandpretty: It’s going well. I’ve said privately to others, but I think the secret to our success this time is abstinence. I haven’t had a full, uninterrupted clitoral orgasm in over a month. The only outlet I have for my arousal are our anal activities. Blake likes it; he says that anal has become his favorite kind of intercourse, and that he really enjoys watching me play with my ass. I’ve been trying to ignore my clit, but sometimes I need a little help to get the ball rolling on my orgasms.

Anal Only Chastity

Anonymous: I’m 4 days into being locked in chastity now, with no plans for future orgasms unless I can learn to cum anally (I’ve sort of had anal orgasms before, or something along those lines, but I can’t easily reproduce them). Before the full chastity I had about 50 days where I never came unless I had a plug or dildo in my ass at the same time, which I really enjoyed and I feel like I could do that forever. But now I’m upping it to full on anal only, and I’d like to be able to do this forever too.

misslutificationYay!… Don’t give in. Thats the hardest part for me. My clit throbs for attention constantly. One of my followers told me when my clit throbs and my pussy aches try to keep fucking my asshole. Everytime i get horny to play with my asshole. It really helps actually. So when i get horny instead of thinking “touch pussy” i think “touch my ass”

Message: Anal Only Means Anal and Oral

outlaw-pete1966: I’m sure that ANAL ONLY means ANAL and oral (or any other kind of stimulation) EXCEPT vaginal … or am I missing something here ?

Absolutely correct. “Anal only” already existed as somewhat-used term before this blog was created, so it’s what I went with, but it really refers to the exclusion of vaginal sex rather than the total exclusivity of anal.