Message: Not Interested In Vaginal Sex Anymore After Doing Anal
Anonymous: For the past few months I was having anal with my GF. Recently I realize that I’m no longer have any interest in vaginal sex. This feels me weird. Every time we ending up with anal and that is the part that I enjoy the most. She enjoys the anal as much as I do but she also enjoys the vaginal too. Why can’t I ? Is this normal ? Because I did not have this before we tried anal. I liked vaginal sex too, Now it is just a turn off for me. Is this normal?
It’s not uncommon, really. A lot of guys, after starting to have anal sex for the first time, realize they don’t actually care that much for vaginal anymore. Whether this is because they just end up liking the feeling of anal better, or they’re wired to prefer anal but don’t realize it until they try it and compare it to vaginal, I don’t know.
If you’re already ending sex with anal every time now, I’d say you’re doing pretty well. If vaginal sex does nothing for you, you could see if your girlfriend would be interested in trying occasional short periods of time where you just have anal with no vaginal before, or if you performed oral sex on her every time before anal. There are certainly ways to provide vaginal and clitoral stimulation without regular penetration. But she may love and want vaginal penetration as much as anal, and that is of course her right as well. Ultimately, you have to decide if you actively dislike vaginal or just don’t like it as much as anal.