Message: How To Learn to Prefer Anal?
dumbandpretty: I’m a big fan of your blog. Although I adore anal, I don’t think I could ever give up vaginal. Any advice as to how I could, umm, tip the balance of preference in favor of anal? Thanks!
If you adore anal then you are already more than halfway there. Secondly, the fact that you are asking how to tip the balance indicates you have the positive blend of curiosity, interest and openness required to make the step in this direction. Perhaps you even already have the subconscious desire?
Saying that “I don’t think I could ever give up vaginal” is simply allowing a primitive biological programming for reproduction to hijack your higher cognitive functions. Or a fear that you are flouting social norms. This is about your pleasure, not caving in to convention or a ticking body clock.
If you really want to tip the balance, begin by making anal intercourse the default. Have it as often as possible, and make sure you provide clitoral stimulation, either manually or with a vibrator. Your body will naturally associate pleasure with anal sex, and with increased frequency it not only becomes easier but more enjoyable as well. Your body and brain just need a little help to learn.
Give it a try for a few weeks. What do you have to lose? If you aren’t ready to make the commitment yet, then make sure that anal play, caresses or analingus are part of every sexual encounter. There are thousands of nerves concentrated in that very small area, and you’ll soon find that once you’ve accepted that it is normal to receive pleasure in this way you’ll only want more of it.